Hey, you. Are you broken hearted? Or are you experiencing love and you feel like bursting you wanna share it with the whole world? Do you ever feel the need to share your love story, or perhaps you just feel the need to write down your experience, pour out your emotions, or maybe you want to get some opinions about what you’re going through at this point in your life. I know we can share our feelings and problems with a friend, a parent, or a sister… but sometimes, let’s admit it, these people know us so well, that they will always give advice or reactions based on our personality, or based on how they know us as a person. There will always be the thing called ‘BIASED‘. Right?
But think about it, don’t you ever wonder how another person might react to your story, when that person doesn’t know you? When that person doesn’t know your past, or background? Don’t you ever wonder if there are people out there experiencing what you’re going through right now? Don’t you wonder how they might handle the same situation? Do you ever feel the need to share a love problem, a thought, a situation, a heartbreak, a love story, but you don’t feel like sharing them with a friend, a sibling, or someone who knows you?
Sometimes it can be liberating and comforting to share your feelings with a stranger. Someone who wouldn’t judge you, someone who can just listen and sympathize with you. And best of all, you wouldn’t have to reveal yourself! You can just remain anonymous, and people won’t judge you because they don’t know you. Sometimes, it’s a refreshing thing to be given the chance to just pour everything out. You can show how angry you are, how happy you are, how sad and lonely you are… by writing a few lines, people will react based on your STORY, and not focus on YOU.
Please feel free to share your love problems on this page. I know there are lots of people out there, especially women, who are going through so much in their lives right now, may it be GOOD or BAD. We women have emotions that no men can ever completely fathom. So I’m inviting you to share your story… (Guys are welcome too!) It doesn’t have to be very long, just write whatever it is your heart tells you to write. Maybe you’re in a complicated situation with your partner, or you had a fight with your loved one, or maybe you feel so deeply in love with this person and you wanna share it with us, please feel free to write a comment here. I would LOVE to hear all about your stories. I’m here as a FRIEND, even though we don’t know each other. Although I can’t promise to respond to every story, know that I will read each and every one. Also, please feel free to give advice to posted problems that you think you can relate to. You never know who you can help with just a few words of wisdom. PEACE!
Hi,
I found your website through browsing coz i’m looking for this particular song. I love everything about your website, the look, feel, contents… etc…
Anyway, just to share my piece of cake. It’s been so long that i am hopelessly in love with this girl and a lot of people says “forget her, she’s not good for you”
and so i tried and tried. i moved on without knowing the real reasons why she’s always busy and gone. so i get involved into a relationship and through these years that we are together i’m perfectly happy and contented, until she came along again… when we moved here in the middle east i didn’t know that i will see her after a few years.
until then, my heart is almost healing but she reappeared again, all the memories flooded back to me as well as my feelings.
i know it’s really crazy but i have to vent out my emotions. I feel so obscured and unfair with my partner while thinking of her and feeling aloof while we are together.
nobody from my friends would like to listen to me everytime i want to talk about her, until i released it all out of my chest with a co-worker and told me “say it!” for once i think i saw a faded light bulb on my head.
and so i did. although i didn’t say it personally but through e-mail.
while writing her that letter, i really felt humiliated thinking of how will she react with that stupid revelation.
i saw her online the next day i sent her that and no comments. no reaction.
well, i said to myself at least i already said it…at least she knows how i really feel about her… and then that’s it. end of the road.
until now, i am still working on rekindling that short old friendship that we shared before.
do you think i am doing the right thing?
i love my partner and i know…no matter what we can never be more than friends.
i’m happy to love her this way and see her happy in a certain way.
move on!
i love a gurl..i will do every thing 4 her …we are not with each other …she in italy and am in another country..i promised hr to travil ther ..and i will do ..but no one know that wut the God want …everynight am dreamin bout her … ma friends told me that u will be with her …and alot of ppl told me that wake up !! u dreamin !….am tired from everything …..i want to travil…am waitin untill somethings ..then i will go and i will study ma uni there … i hope that they will let me to Go …cuz am arabic …and all the world think that we are shit !!….why ?..
i want someone to help me …i cant resist more …..i swear i donno wut to do…i will try and try and try ….cuz she ma everything in this life …without her i will die….its ma first time in da love and it will be da last …she relaxin me ….when i hear her voice …when i see her …i hope that if someone feel me ….i want help.
thx 4 reading
Well , i don t really know wat to say cuz i m in love too and i do feel wat u feel right now, it s not easy to lov some1 who, there re miles and miles btw you.
Anyway, i won t tel u dat u ll get back to each other cuz this is only btw Allah”s hand and i won t tel u to forget abt her cuz this is not easy and takes time .but the only thing dat i can tel u is, TRY TO GET OVER THIS, belive me dat will work out with u.
Wish ya good luck
.Ur arab sister
sometimes loving someone that’s in a far far away land is really difficult. you are living in a memory that’s been left behind, while there are other on-going developments with each other’s lives that both of you aren’t updated anymore. and if you will see each other again, you’ll be surprised that you are already hugging a stranger.
don´t give up your dreams ´cause you only live once..think about your happiness and try to catch it..it doesn´t just come knock on your door..
if you really want to be with her, then don´t give up..there are allot of things possible nowadays..if you´re going to study in Italy, they will probably let you live there but you have to arrange everything at the Italian ambassed in your own counrty..it will cost you money but they will tell you what to do..
as i said..ALLOT is possible nowadays..just be sure that she wants the same thing..otherwise you´ll make so many efforts for nothing..
i wish you luck
thx 4 that Sara , living legend , Mestiza
am i donno how to thnk u 4 ths cute words
and i will not give up ..ever
that’s the spirit! 🙂 true love is always worth fighting for. keep the good words coming guys! 😉
Living legend, thanks for your story. It remind me situation I have now.
Few years back, I’m in loved with a gal but we were broke up & I did lot of stupid things tried to recover this relationship. In the end, she left & in love with other guys.
For the first time, I really felt the meaning of heartbreak. It’s physically pain. For that moment, I lost everything, my love, my job even giving up myself. No will to live anymore. Luckily, my family helped me to get through this.
After few months, I meet my wife & we got married after few years. We have a little baby gal as well & living in happiness life.
Recently, I found out from my friend that my ex was broke up with her bf & now wanted to start a new relationship but suffer in unrequited love. Suddenly, our memories is haunting me back. I used to think I have forgotten her few years back but now my feeling for her is back. I felt so bad & sad that she can’t find the one who can give her a family. She is a good gal & she deserves a better man.
The most stupid thing I did was wrote her an email & ask her can we still be friends. What an idiot I am! I know we can’t be together anymore but I still wish I can care for her as a friend, which I never treasure her when we’re together. She never reply & I know she really hate me.
I know it’s unfair for my family especially my love. My wife do know i still love her even until today.
Hopefully, I will forget her & move on.
@Lex :
Plzzz, Forget her.. z that wud be better for u n ur family..
Z u ve tried ur best to get her back bt she didn’t come so now she is alone so for that u cant help her z she didn’t noticed u wen u wer alone n she left wid another. So now u shud not care @ her.
N m stunned to hear that ur wife still know that u still love her.
yeah its ok if ur wife knows everythng about ur past bt u shud not love that past again wen u have ur wife wid u. It’s kinda betrayal wid ur wife. So now cut the crap..
Let me tell u very frankly…
Set free ur Love , if it come back to u it’s urs n if it didn’t come then it wasnt ur’s at all…. so chill n Njoy life wid ur family…
Dont put the pranks to the Ex. U cn be her friend bt Don’t jus love her…………..
SORRY if i hurt u………. bt this is wt i feel…..
hi Imogen miss ya tooo much!!!
you know?! i become too pessimistic concerning love, i’ve lived the most beautiful and crazy love story that would anyone have, all people looked at us and felt happy they were calling us “Love Birds”, and after a long love story we broke up, i’ve never imagined that i would leave that person or he will do so.But one night, i’ve heard message alert, i’ve checked my mobile and i was toooo happy cos the sender was the love of my life, instead of reading nice love words, i’ve read this one” Sara i just send u this message to tell u that our relationship is not stable anymore so we have to put an end and believe me that i loved you and i still do”it is tooo hard Imogen, isn’t it? i’ve grathered my courage and try to 4get about him, it has been a month ago that we broke up.i don t think that love exist between a man and woman now, i believe that there is love but just toward: God, parents, sisters and brothers. But i thank god the one and only cos i was surrounded by the most adorable friends in this world who helped me to stand up on my two own feet and start my life again. i’m having a lot of fun with my friends right now but till now i can’t remove the traces of the best moments that i had with him.
hi Sara, i know what you’re going through! It’s very hard to learn to forget someone that has been so much a part of your life. it really hurts, especially when you’re still very much in love with your ex. but i guess we have to accept the fact, that some good things DO last. and what we can do, is learn from that experience, and move on.
i know it’s easier said than done, but i know God won’t give us something that HE knows we can’t overcome. You’re very lucky you have your friends who are with you in time of need. Cherish them and don’t ever lose hope! Something better will come your way. you’ll see. 😉 thanks for sharing your story!
hiya i’ve jst broken up wid my ex the other day and i wanna get back wid her.c she has this mate that she’s been goin out wid (girl mate) and they’ve been meetin up wid boys and she told me the other day she don’t wanna b wid me coz she has feelings for this luver boy she met and she’s only known him for three days and she said i still love you but i cant b wid you. but i still have feelings for her and i jst wanna get back wid her. so have you got any tips or anything that i can get her back. reply a.s.a.p
hi unknown:
well u should let go of the person who walked away from u and how can she still love u when she convinced u that she has feelings toward some1 else. better to let it go and believe me you’ll get over it. Anyway she is the loser.
take care. Peace.
Love is bittersweet, and that’s why it’s unique.
I’ve now moved 300 miles (long way in Denmark) away from my ex. He’s with a new girl, the one he cheated on me with. We used to live together, had everything. He was my one and only. Now I have everything I want. New life, with my best friends who has moved along. My career is developing wonderful and I’ve met a wonderful guy who I know will treat me as I deserve. But yet everyday I feel like calling him to see if he has changed his mind… if he still loves me, thinks of me etc. I miss him so much, and can’t get him out of my mind. He lives with the new girl now. I assume he’s in love with her, and that makes me feel like I was just one in the row of his romances in life, where in my heart, he was my everything.
Every time I have to go back home to visit friends and family, I can’t help wanting to meet up with him, though we don’t. I don’t have any contact with him at all, but my heart aches! My friends has done everything possible, I have done everything… and now a year has gone by. I try so hard to keep my mind occupied with other things, but I can’t help thinking of him. I know he did bad things, that he’s no good for me anyway and that he does not deserve me, but I feel like I lost a part of myself that nobody can fulfill but him! Do you have any advice for me? It makes me very depressed sometimes because I feel so helpless, restless, confused and just questioning if we will ever get back together!
I love your site…. you are one of the few people in the world that really has the compassion needed for the rest of us to not feel alone. THANK YOU!! 🙂 Have a wonderful day… and God Bless You!!
hi jeanette, you know, yours is a sad, painful story that i know lots of other women out there can relate to. it’s definitely hard letting go of someone you love so much, but you have to LEARN. no one can tell you what to do though, because you are your own person, but advice will always be given and it’s up to you which advice to take.
i’m no expert in this, but let me try to give you my opinion. please ask yourself. did your ex boyfriend ever try to contact you? while you’re wondering about him, is he wondering about you? while you’re feeling depressed and confused, is he feeling the same way? or maybe he’s happy with his new life? you said so yourself, he’s with another girl, the one he has cheated on you with. i know it’s difficult to accept, but it really is quite simple. if he really loved YOU, he would choose you over that girl. right? but he didn’t. he chose the other girl. that alone, is proof enough that you need to let go. don’t be hard on yourself. it’s not solely your fault he left. love just works in mysterious ways, and we can never really understand why it has to end for some. there’s nothing wrong with you, maybe you’re just not meant for each other.
i know what you’re going through. it’s hard. when we love someone so much, we tend to give ourselves completely, and when that someone leaves, it feels like a part of us has died. it’s perfectly normal. it’s part of the grieving process. but sooner or later, you have to move on, COMPLETELY. maybe some part of you is still hoping that you’ll get back together. maybe that’s what makes it difficult for you to let go completely. but you’re just making it worse for yourself. it’s not wrong to hope, but you’ve got to know when to stop! you can’t go on living your life stuck to the past. you said you have a wonderful new guy who treats you well, start from there.
think about this. maybe your ex is happy now. can’t you just be happy for him? if you truly love him, you’ll learn to set him free in your heart and accept the fact that he’s happy somewhere else. because if he isn’t, he should have come running straight back to you, the moment you got out of his life, right?
the pain and sadness will always be there i guess. but it will completely heal in time. give yourself a chance to find love again. but you won’t be able to do that, if you still desperately cling to your past love. PRAY. God will help you through it. He’ll show you the right path. just trust in Him. and trust in yourself that you can rise through this. good luck! and let me know what happens. 😉
Dear imogen,
Thank you so much for taking the time in your life to make me and so many other people feel alot better. You are really blessed with a special gift from God. He must be so proud of you!
I have now read your answer for me 3 times, and your words will hopefully be printed in my mind along the way. I have come to the conclusion yesterday that I have to deal with this now once and for all so I can continue MY LIFE!
You are so right, the guy I see now is worth a chance, if not millions!
I will try my very best to face the fact that he does NOT want me to be a part of his life and to pray that both of us will be happy separately. I assume that I deserve it just as much as he does!
In a way I’m glad that I have experienced this in my heart, ’cause I believe what you say about God. Everything happens for a reason, and this will perhaps be the reason why I will be able to handle other things well in my life!
Untill yesterday I did not have the courage to face my fears, feelings, hopes and destiny ’cause it was way more easy to just keep punching myself about it instead of doing something constructive such as dealing with the real problem… meaning OPEN MY EYES AND MIND to the world!! It is not the end yet, but a begging of a process that I expect from myself to learn a whole lot from!
To truly say that I hope he is happy with he’s girlfriend, is very hard for me to do. But I know with time I will be able to do so fortunately. What does not kill you, only makes you stronger!
It is time for me to acknowledge the other great things in my life and not hope to get back together with a person that does not love me!
Love is strange indeed, but with people like you in the world, it gives everything more sense and understanding! Thank you!!
Have a wonderful day! God bless you!
Love,
Jeanette 🙂
thank you so much, jeanette, for your kind words. you don’t know how heart warming it is when someone appreciates you, and takes the time to tell you.
i’m so proud of you for finally having the courage to accept the truth and finally taking the first step to letting go! this takes time, especially if you really still love your ex. don’t rush it. it’s not going to be easy, but I know you can do it! you’re absolutely right, it’s no use waiting for someone or clinging to someone who, we know in our hearts, don’t love us anymore. most women have this tendency though. we tend to be masochists and hurt ourselves instead of facing the truth. but hopefully soon enough, we’ll learn to value ourselves more, so we could find the happiness that we so deserve.
again, thank you for your words, and may God bless you in your new life. 🙂
Hi Imogen,
I waS just browsing when i accidentally saw your site.. I’ve been hooked for 2 hours already :)…
Well, i’m having a hard time to understand some things lately about my relationship. LAst week, my bf asked me to watch a movie with him with his friends and I said ok.. While waiting to get off from work, I suddenly remembered that one of his co workers might come and so I called him and said if that girl is coming then I won’t go anymore but he can go with them ( perfectly fine really! )… The girl I was talking about was someone who likes him a lot and my bf had used her in making me mad one time which really freaked me out… that time he said he was really sorry. But then, just like other women, i don’t feel comfortable being with people who contributed to our major fight or who had been a part of not so good memories. She just get into my nerves that much, especially when she allows herself to get between us… It’s very intentional.. My bf got mad at me and he said I was making an issue out of nothing. I said, it’s just that I don’t feel comfortable seeing her around and it’s something that he should respect, after all it was him who started it all. Since that time, we haven’t seen each other nor talk over the phone, It’s all text messages and I hate it very much. I broke off with him over text since he doesn’t want to talk personally… but it was just because I was very mad… Now, its like it’s all my fault. I tried reaching him and I asked if he has no plans of talking to me or at least settling this matter, he said it was me who wanted to break up and he was just respecting what I want…
Every time we fight, we really never talk about what had been our problem… When he comes to see me, there’s no room for questioning, for clearing, for compromising.. When he sees me that’s it! We’re ok and it means he is sorry but no definite words.. When I try to talk about it, for the reasons of at least next time it will not happen again or we would try not to do any of it again, he would always say ” DONT START, It ALREADY HAPPENED”….
I feel so bad.. as in so bad.. because he makes me feel it’s all my fault when what he knows doing best is to avoid discussions.. Leaving things at that… I love him much,, but I feel i’m losing my self respect already.
Please help me.
Thank you.
hi mErz, i can feel your frustration. men can sometimes be very difficult to understand. 😀 i think this is a classic example of a relationship that is not emotionally fulfilling. i don’t know you, or your boyfriend, but i do know that you’re not the only couple experiencing this kind of problem. lots and lots of women out there are complaining that their partners don’t seem to understand them, or don’t seem to be sensitive enough to their feelings. i think every woman has experienced this at one time or another. 😉 so don’t think you’re alone.
anyway, with the situation you narrated, i understand your need to be as far away as possible to the people who have been instrumental to your fights with your boyfriend. and i really think that if you explained that to him carefully, your boyfriend should have respected that as well. did you explain to him in a nice way how you felt? sometimes, it’s all in the “expression”. we want to express our feelings, but we should also think about how the other person will respond to the way we express them. if you were able to explain it nicely, i think there’s no reason why he should get mad at you!
sometimes, even little things can trigger a fight, even with the best of couples. it’s normal. two different people are bound to disagree. but if you really love each other, it’s up to you how to find ways of getting around that. compromise is the key. if you’re boyfriend really loves you, he’ll realize that. and you, on the other hand, should help him realize that too.
i can understand how mad you must be because he didn’t respect your feelings… thus, causing you to break up with him. but let me ask you this, do you regret breaking up with him? i can tell that you’re still in love with him, because obviously, you’re still affected with the whole thing. i know how frustrating it is to be in a relationship that doesn’t fulfill your emotional needs, most especially a relationship that makes you lose self respect. that’s a complete no-no. if you feel that way, it’s time to do some re-evaluating. are you willing to lose yourself for a guy? if your boyfriend even allows that to happen to you, then he really isn’t worth it!
in any relationship, healthy communication is essential. you don’t avoid problems, you face them head on! if you don’t discuss the causes of your fights, problems will never be resolved. i know most guys don’t like to “TALK” about stuff, but we have to teach them somehow because it’s really important. the whole purpose of “talking”, is to LEARN. with every fight, with every conflict, the main goal is to learn to understand your partner… to know your partner better so that the next time something like that happens again, you know what to do. you should be growing together, not growing apart!
your boyfriend should understand this, and you should help him understand it. if he truly loves you, he will be willing enough to make the effort of working out your relationship. if not, then you’re better off without him. know when to hold on, and know when to give up. life is too short to waste your time with a person who’s not even willing to meet you halfway.
you’re a woman, and you should realize your self worth. that’s very important. most often than not, when it comes to love, rules and advices like these are thrown out. but it has to start within you. nobody can tell you what to do. you have to know it within yourself. if you’re tired of always being stepped on, then stand up for yourself! remember, other people can only do to us, what we allow them to do to us. same goes with your boyfriend. so you have to make a decision, and make sure you’ll be able to stand by that decision. and keep in mind, what’s meant to be, will be. 😉 hope everything goes okay with you!
hi ImogeN! tHank you So mUch For repLying to me,, having someone to listen to me was very helpful and it was really a relief…
Last friday, finally we were able to talk personally. He initiated the talk. I was expecting the worst possible scenario and decisions that might come up. Honestly, I was not expecting any reconciliation anymore. I just want to let him know everything that I feel. We met for dinner. We talked about everything, we talked about where it started, what had been our problems, everything, every single detail. He was able to understand where I was coming from,.. it was not a very easy thing to do. I was teary for a while, and I’m glad that he was composed and very casual that day. He listened to me.. He said everything too. But it was not hurtful,,, we settled things that we have to.. I asked if we need work it out and he said he’s having second thoughts.. so I said its ok, since I’m not also sure if its a good idea and me myself is having mixed feelings about us being together as couple again. So we both agreed that we remain friends. That was the very hurting part.
He said, he’ll watch a movie after our talk. So after dinner, I already said my goodbye to him. He asked me where I’m going & I said I’ll just go around the mall since I’m here already. He held my hand like before, it was the worst feeling I ever had.. Tears are almost falling but I controlled it and he said he still wants to walk around with me. I was just quiet, I couldnt say a word… I saw every little details that reminds me of our good times together, restaurants where we used to dine, things we planned to buy for each other, etc.. and it saddened us both.. He asked if I was mad on the decision that we made.. I said no, it was maybe better. I was honest that I cant be friends with him just yet. And when he doesnt hear from me, it doesnt mean I’m mad, its just im taking my time… He said, he’s not sure if what he said was right,, He said he’s afraid that he’ll regret making that harsh decision. I just kept quiet abt what he’s saying. I was joking a lot,, I was really diverting my mind away from the pain I’m really feeling that moment…. I was making things lighter…Since I can no longer take holding hands with him for some more time because it saddens me so much, I already said he should go watch his movie and I really need to go… While I was walking with him in the movie house, he was into tears,, I said I really got to go…. I already said my goodbye.
I never texted him anymore. When I was on my way home.. my tears began flowing down my cheeks,, I was really sad,,, i received a message from him saying HON, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. I never responded… simply because, i dont want to prolong the agony.. both for our part. I prayed so hard that evening… asking the Lord to help me get through it.. Very early morning, he called me at the house. He said goodmorning hon… and asked how i was doing.. I continued being casual to him because I dont want sad thoughts anymore. He continues to say he misses me but I no longer entertain the thoughts.. Im happy to hear it but Im quite ok now. Sunday we had dinner and we were like before. Maybe we were pressured on making things perfect. We focused on being couples but not on us being friends too. That was our mistake.
I can say now that I’m more better than last week and Im not so hurt as before. Im starting to get used to being by myself. I’m loving myself more now. Thank you imogen!
Hi imogen
yea its has been really a long time dat i didn’t surf on the net i really do miss ya! hope u r missin my comments too: 😀 LOL
U know imogen whenever i read your posts i feel too happy as i get my power from them. i really do appraciate ur work,so u. keep lookin up and gd luck.Peace hon.
hey sara! good to have you back! i do miss your comments. 😉 i always appreciate them. thanks for your compliments, and i’m happy you appreciate what i’m doing. always take care, and god bless! peace!
You’re the best Imogen never 4get dat.kissssssssssssssssssss.Peace!
I know some of you will judge me when I talk about my experience with love. I hope that you keep reading to fully understand the reasons I allowed it to happen.
I am in love with a married man. We have had a relationship for a year now. Before you hate him for straying or hate me for tempting him…please read.
I suffered major setbacks from abuse I endured as a kid. One of the setbacks was the inability to trust. I trusted a very limited set of people…basically my mom, sister and brother. I married young thinking it would solve all my problems but didn’t. I never felt safe enough or ready to face my demons.
This is very hard to share but I never consummated my marriage. I am still a virgin. I was married for six years and couldn’t bring myself to trust enough and face that ultimate act.
Last year I met someone who started out as a friend. I knew I was attracted to him from the beginning which confused me as I was still living with my husband. The friendship evolved – or rather I allowed it to evolve – into one of the most rewarding relationships I have ever experienced. For the first time in my life, I trusted someone other than family. I let go. I began therapy again and his support gave me the strength I needed to begin my self recovery.
His marriage has its problems and he is unhappy. He proposed to her because she got pregnant. He wanted to be there for his son day and night. He is an amazing father and loves his son very much. From what I’ve heard from friends and family of theirs, they are both unhappy but neither one is willing to step up and work on their happiness.
I could be an escape for him, who knows. He says he loves me and says he hasn’t felt love in a long time. He says he can open up to me in ways he never could with anyone before. I know in my heart that I truly love him. And it’s rewarding to know that I am capable of trusting someone. Which I thought I would never be able to do.
We have even gotten further intimately than I ever did with my husband.
He can’t leave her. He wants to keep that family together for the sake of his son. Even though his son will grow up with the tension in that house.
I don’t want to let him go. I’m so numb without him. But I know it’s not healthy for either of us if this continues.
How do I let go the deepest love I’ve known?
How do I let go the only man I’ve trusted?
Help
hi JustMe. First and foremost, thank you for sharing your experience. I know how hard it must be to let it all out, because of the fear of being judged. It takes courage to face your problems, and I respect you for that. No one has the right to judge you or the things you’ve experienced, because only God has the right to judge us. We are all imperfect persons, and judging one another is out of the question.
Regarding your problem, honestly, I don’t have solutions or great words of advice to give… I personally don’t know what to do myself if I were in your situation. It’s tough being involved with a married person, because well, your relationship is hidden, and you’re not free to love each other completely because of other people involved. It must really hurt, right? Especially if what you’re saying is true. That you really love him. Sharing the person you love with another is painful. And only YOU can determine whether you want to continue feeling that pain or not.
Of course you don’t want to let him go because of valid reasons… he’s the only one you were able to trust, he makes you feel loved and special, he makes you happy, you love him, he loves you… but there’s also a reason why you should let him go. Because he’s married. And like you said, he doesn’t have any plans of leaving his wife for you. See, if he loved you enough, he wouldn’t let you go. He would fight for you, and choose you over his failing marriage. But if he’s not strong and committed enough to choose you, do you think the relationship is still worth fighting for? Do you want to continue your affair that you yourself know is unhealthy? Are you contented to just do things behind your spouses’ backs? Are you satisfied with that kind of relationship? Are you willing to hold on until the very end? Or are you ready to let go and move on?
How do you let go the deepest love you’ve known? How do you let go of the only man you’ve trusted?
These and a lot of other questions… but the truth is, only you can answer that. If there’s a manual for this type of problem, no one will be experiencing it. Everyone would know what to do. But no. The decision has to come from you. You will find the answer within yourself. It IS hard and it hurts too, but you have to decide, and you have to be strong enough to stand by that decision.
I guess there’s nothing more I could advice you except to PRAY. Problems like these are too big to carry alone. Talk to GOD. Surrender your problems to HIM, because He can help you. Pray for guidance and strength to decide what needs to be done. Sometimes, what we want, or what we think we want, are not the best things for us. Only God knows what’s best for us. Don’t ignore HIM, especially at times when you really need comfort and healing. No matter what happens, or whatever you decide on, always remember, you are a special person, and with or without a man, you can survive. Good luck, and I pray that you will have all the love and blessings that you deserve. 🙂
Hey imogen
How Are U…Hope Ur Gud …..
i didnt write any comment from lot of time
i had to study so i couldnt …..
Miss U All :)..
i wanted to say :
i broke up with ma Gf ….who i loved more than maself ….i rely thought i will be with her till da last breath …..cuz i loved her more than anything in da whole world ….but God doesnt want us to contineu with eachother ….. Wut can i do more??
we broke up before 20 days …… i donno … i thought i will not live without her …. i rely lost everything …she was ma everything …..i still love her and i still have da hope to be with her again …..i will still tryin….hope da god will help me …
hey sara…..i read ur story its rely hard ….and am Glad that u are Happy now …. u will get in love again …and u will have person who will keep u in his eyes :)….
this site is rely da best site ….i like to read ur stories friends
cuz its rely makes me relax
Hi everyone
im new to this site but all these stories really make me feel like everyone would understand and try to help with my situation so here it goes.
About a month ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years.
At the time it seemed like the right choice,
and in part it still seems that way to me since our greatest enemy was in fact distance..
He lives near the border in mexico and I live in Colorado, USA so it just seemed like our relationship was getting kinda pointless.
Specially since he wuld just frustrate me a lot, and say false promises that he obviously didnt keep.
Even then, I truly loved him.
i gave him my whole heart and hes just someone i cant forget.
and now we’ve decided to remain friends but its just not the same.
im still used to the guy that would tell me evrything, and all the things he did.
now he acts like my word could mean less, and it just hurts cos i still rememver waht it used to be.
I still care for him
its obvious evrytime i talk to him.
and he keeps teting me evryday. making attempts to talk to me, but when we finally do he hardly says anything or listens to much that i have to say.
i honestly dont understand this behavior and im getting tired of it.
ive tried to tell him that maybe its best we just dont talk at all, so my old wounds stop opening up each time we talk.
but he insists that that would hurt more.
so im just confused. a part of me wants to go back to what it used to be but the other part tells me not to be so stupid and wake up and see that nothing can go back to how it was.
all i want to know is if he does really love me like he says he does or is it just an act to use me as a side dish whenver he needs it?
thank you to whoever takes the time to answer..
Hey Confused..
U know ….thats wut goin on with me ….i swear its da same
but am sure that she loved me …. we are friends now …and she cant do anything without ask me….we still need eachother
but she dont want to back to me….i donno if i have to stop speakin with her …but i feel that am lost without her …or without her voice….
i donno if he rely loves u …but if he does…he would come to u
and maybe if u stop talkin with him …u will forget him
donno wut to say more
take care
txt back
PLEASE HELP!!!!
well i have two people that wants to be with me…
the first one is my ex…
she broke up with me because she was tired of keeping our relationship on the low…
well at least that’s what she said…
but about a week later she goes out with her ex…
she said she was in love with me but last time i checked if you’re really in love with somebody you cant just leave them for another person
last time i checked that ain’t what love is
but when things weren’t going good between them and they break up…
and everytime she cries she comes to ME…
and i wanted to keep my promise that whatever happens to our relationship i will always be there for her…and i was..
she’d cry and she’d talk about her ex to me but she just didn’t know that it was hurting me…
so then i realized that it was time for me to do something FOR ME!!
i can’t put her as my priority anymore because im just her option
so we didn’t talk for a while..
even though i missed her i had to move on…
Things were going good for me…
wasn’t really thinking about her as much as i did
weren’t really talking to her at all
i blocked her from my phone…
and when she’d leave a message to call her back i wouldn’t
and i made sure that the house phone was always in use
by then i was hanging out with my friends and talking to another person
i didn’t really like the person but i thought that i would give it a chance
but we took things slow because i was just recovering from being broken hearted
and that person understood…
i really thought that i was over my ex
but just when i was starting to get over her
she comes back in my life…
she couldn’t get through me so she called my brother
my brother answered so i couldn’t really do anything but talk to her
so we talked on the phone for quite a while
then as we were about to hang up she drops the bomb on me…
that she was still in love with me…
and now i don’t know what to do
all i know is that im scared to get hurt again…
i have my ex who says that she’s still in love with me…
but i’m having doubts about her…
is she saying the thruth or im just her rebound from her other ex that she broke up with me for???
but i really love her though..
but i don’t think that i love her enough to risk my heart again…
on the other hand i have someone that i know likes me a lot…
i don’t really like that person but i know if i just give it a try i can feel the same way that person feels about me…
i love my ex so much
i know she did me wrong
but there’s something about her that i just can’t let go
i appreciate that person for waiting
i dont want that person to get hurt
if only i’d give that person a chance then maybe things would work out
I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!
hey someone
thanx for answering
its just real confusing. im sure u’d agree
he says that he does care but lately he just does so many things that im sure would hurt me if id ever find out.
and ugh its just so frustrating.
im sorry ur going through the same thing.
but thanx anyways
take care too
thank you so much for your advice. my ex and I broke up over a year and half ago and im still trying to move on…i hope i can take your advice and put it into play!
hi everyone!
im new here and im so amazed how the people here, especially imogen give very sensible advices. .
no, i didn’t break up with my bf (bcoz i dont have one. .lol)
but im here to ask what u guys think i should do with this very confusing situation I am in. .
i met this guy 5 months ago. .he used to be my student for 7 weeks in my 1:1 class. .he’s from korea and im from the philippines. .1m 21 and he’s 27. .at first, i was the one who liked him but im very sure that i didnt show signs that i liked him. .but after a few weeks, he was telling me he liked me and he’s crazy bout me. .after hearing those, i felt disgusted. .and my feelings for him just vanished into thin air. .after that incident, i tried avoiding him to the extent that i skip from his classes. .he was so upset when he realized that i was avoiding him so he decided to go to back to his country earlier than his original plan. .and promised that he’d be back by december. .for me
after he left, we get to talk to each other online. .i started getting used to chatting with him. .and i started falling for him. .but i just kept it to myself. .for about 2 weeks, i had problems with my inet connection. .so, we weren’t able to communicate. .i realized during those times that i dont really feel anything for him.
when i had my i.net back, i blocked him from my messenger list and unblock him again everytime i feel guilty blocking him. . the other night, he asked me. . “can i go there this december?”. .i dont know what to reply. .so i left it unaswered. .i know i have to give him my answer ASAP. .
im considering a lot of things and its making me so stressed out. . like: our nationality, age difference. .im working right now and if he comes here. .what will he do while im at work, he doesn’t know anyone from here except me. .if he comes here, i feel obliged to show him around. .and most of the time i still get turned off with his englsih skill. .im not that good too but his is just so. . .i dunno. . =(
i cant just tell him not to come here. . cuz its just so mean. . but if he comes, i just dont know waht to do with him. . =(
i know its kinda selfish but i have this mind setting. .i dont want u to be my boyfriend but please just stay there. .i have this feeling that i willnot find another guy who likes me as much as he likes me. .
please HELP. .and im sorry if it’s kinda long. .
God bless u all. . ^^*
well i liked all teh stories in here what can i say abt love i was in love 3 times all the time the guys cheat on me my first one was the love of my life we were together for 1 year then he left for canada its so hard to part with someone u love its like the time is going so quick. anyways the night he was going away he came to my home to meet my parents n to ask for my hand in marriage. my dad told him its up to u, not us. we held hands as he was walking towards the car we were still holding hands then little by little we let go, the car drove off. i felt like dying to be honest. i fell to the ground crying he looked back at me n left becoz he was getting late for his flight he used to call me like 3 times per week at first then it went to once every three months i called him once n asked him y are u not calling me he told me he’s so busy n that we always fight with each other that’s a lie i asked him if he ever loved me he told me point blank, no i never did. i cried for days. due to this, i made up my mind to leave him. we were together for 3 years n it ended due to distance i can tell u distances can break relationships. my 2nd one was so cute n kind towards me but he lies a lot. he had gotten a teenage girl pregnant n he wanted to marry me then he would have told me he is having a kid but i found out n i left him. the 3rd was a divorced married man. i was in love with a man 2 times my age he loved me alot he was there for me when i needed him but the only thing bad abt him is that in the 1 year with him he used to say i love u but now in 1 year’s time he did not i know love has to be shown not said. but still who would not like to hear someone telling them i love u i mean we are in bed n he cant say it. my 4th was an indian guy. i am western girl he’s an indian from india he told me he loves me a lot. i say i love u too after months. i told him i love him here’s his story… his family won’t accept me due to my religion he’s hindu, i am not. sometimes u feel he’s lying to me he wants to go to canada then marry with me we are still together but we fight a lot. i don’t know what will happen to us n our story have learned that god knows what’s best for us so leave everything to god he may close one door but open another for u.
Hi everyone, I’m Not good at this but here it goes………..
I just transfered to a new school. Have this classmate which didn’t mean anything to me(I was such a childish minded idiot at the time). We weren’t even close at all.
So a full year of school passed by….. The next year we were in the same section again but this time I’m more adept to people. I was communicating with her real well.
Whenever there’s spare time to spend I just spent it w/ my close friends(including her).
At that time everything was so good, I always got high grades,good friends, Never a single problem in the world, never cared about anything……Until this girl and I got so close we were always on the phone, I would always act as here protector, always kid around each other,we made promisses that WE WILL NEVER GET ANGRY W/ EACH OTHER,,,alot of people said that we were so close that we were like the perfect love mates, while infact we were not, I didn’t care, just denied it, just said that we were friends to everyone, people always thaught we were in love w/ each other, but all this didn’t mean anything to me……………..UNTIL,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,One day she just didn’t come near me anymore, I didn’t mind it, She never called my name again, She never really avoided me but as the days went on I felt the feeling that she just didn’t want to come near me for some odd reason.
Still I didn’t care,……as more time passes by she now doesn’t come near me but tries to be very approching to other buys in the class…….I know one of them which is my friend that often hangs around w/ in the class( w/ me still not caring)…..Until at some points she tries to make me jealous( dont know if she is intending it or is it just really my mind that thiks it)……At one time she just told me to please exchange chairs w/ her just so she can talk and fool around with my seatmate, w/c is my friend……So i got up and did so,,,,,,But inside me, I got this feeling that I can’t explain, It was odd, I was like so angry w/ her because it was too much already, I really felt that she was trying to make me see something that I can’t tell…
I shouted at her said awful words (even though we promised not to do that at each other)…She was like shocked….
For that day I never said anything to her again…, The next day I just kept evading the sigh of her,,, Didn’t talk to her, and when I got home I just missed texting w/ her on the phone, It was like I had a crush on her that i just felt after so long, But I didn’t believe myself, I always but in my head that it’s nothing, It will go away.
Next day again,,,…..could not talk to her and she could not talk to me,,,,It was like a burden….and so on till the next day my feelings for her kept getting stronger…….
and so on the 4th day I took up all my courage and said sorrry to her,,,,,,…She put a smile on her face and said “Why did you get angry w/ me”?
I said because I was stupid,,,…So after that I felt an overwealming joy, But I tried so hard to bring things back to how they were, somehow I longed for the days when we were still very close friends.,,,,I now Knew that i was deeply in-Love w/ her.
But I failed,, instead shes still trying to make me see something……
As months went pass… we Were always in on and off moods w/ each other,,, one week we are talking w/ each other the next week we were not.
I always thought about her, And when i saw something in my head,,, I just can’t deserve her, I can’t be in-love w/ her, I have to forget her, I need to stop longing for her……….
And so after all these I changed, I never tried to talk to her again, Lost my friends, Everyone said I had a big change in attitude,Everyone said they prefered the old me..,,,,,,My grades all failed,,,,,Met new friends that led me to no good, Everything that I beleve was good changed, I became rebelius, Did not respect anyone, Not even God himself, I never tought of my well-being anymore, commited crimes etc, etc,……All of this because of her, I still can’t get her out of my head, i’m so angry w/ her but so in-love w/ her at the same time,,,,,,,
At this point of my life I became a total EMO as you call it……Untill me and my friend were writing letters to each other w/ stories of my problem w/ her,………..Somehow this letter came into her possession,……..There it says that I love her so Much that I could give up my life just for her( wich was realy true)………
But still nothing happened because I know she already knows that,……From the time I gave her chocolates,Gifts, etc……
Okay lets skip over a huge Part of it since its getting very very long………………………………
Right now, I’m not talking to her, I’ve decided to go to school somewhere else, I haven’t said a word to her since mid January,,,,,
I’m used to the jealosy I once felt so painful,,,,
My heart is now numb,At some points I think of commiting suicide,,,,
But I just want to talk to her,,,,,
What can I do to talk to her?
I still want to know the reason why she changed?
I’ve never said i Love her( and im not planing to do so)
I just want to leave all my memories of her behind.
And alot of more qustions that I need answers….
Please I Need Your Help,,,
I’m willing to give my email add,,,,,
Thank you very much,,,,,
Sory it was so long but if I didnt cut it dow it would be 16X longer,,,,,,,, (Told you I wasnt good at these things)
thanks again Plese Help
I was in love with a guy called. He was not into me but he wanted to be a friend. We were friends for almost 1 year. Finally, I realized that he would never fall for me and I couldn’t get over him, if we stayed such frequent contacts. So, I told him peacefully that I had been in love with him but I wanted to move on so I decided to not have any contact with him at all until I was ready. He replied that it’s not a surprise for him to hear how I felt for him and he’s sorry that he couldn’t answer my love. He would not try to contact me any more in order to respect my feelings but hope to hear from me soon. I think it is a good closure for me. I thank him for that.
I hope your love story can have a happy ending. If not, you should go for a closure FOR YOURSELF. A closure is always not happy but it should not be bitter as well. Only with such a peaceful closure, your wound will recover completely.
I’ve been for 7months in a relationship with 40 years old divorced man (4 years ago). He has a 10 years old daughter and she comes twice in a month; also, his mom is now living with him cause she is a little sick. I live in a town 2 hours from his and for my work I have to travel 3 days in the week to his city it does mean living with him 3 days in a week and also the weekends. When his daughter came we didn’t sleep in the same room.
1 month ago we went to a trip (a tropical island) with his daughter; it was really painful because he was with her all the time taking her pictures and kissing the kid ….he didn’t hold my hand or kiss me in front of her. We didn’t have time for us in the trip, the day we wanted to go out for a walk (without his daughter), she started to cry and we didn’t go. .
I decided to try to enjoy the trip, we went to a tour and for lunch time, all the tour group was sitting in the same table. I sat first and close to the guide (a young man); my BF and his daughter came late and asked me to move close to them..I said: I am going to stay here; and didn’t want to move. After lunch he told me I was disrespecting them and if I continue behaving like that I must move my things from his place and our relationship will end. I told him ok..we still had 5 days to finish the trip and I tried to do make any comment. When we came from the trip, I returned to my town without talking because his daughter was still there. The week after I told him we needed to talk and I stay in a hotel; I told him I didnt like his words and I asked to treat me as his GF and give me my place and time in front of his daughter . He said he can not understand what I am asking him because he just did his best and has showing me all his love. One week after I told him I can not continue because my BF should try to understand my feelings and do not want to suffer in the future. ..then we agree in give us a week.
I contact his best friend’s wife which is a psychologist and ask her for an advice (because they know him for 4 years), she told me that it is not surprising for her my BF behave cause he is extremely obsessive with his daughter and no one else exists when they are together; one of her comments was to leave him because he would never understand me..and he just want a wife to have kids.
I tried for a month.. explaining to him in a nice way by email, phone, chat..but he said I should forget/ignore and continue together..Two days ago..we chat and told me he is tired of this situation and realized I deserve someone different and better….I phone him and tried him understand that I LOVE HIM but I need he recognized it was not nice to treat me like he did and I needed my place…he said that I have chosen my future without them (his daughter too)….
I love him…but how to make he understand…he told me if I want we can come back but we must not talk about the past….what to do??
*His daughter is lovely and she likes me and the same for me..but can not stand when he spoiled her…..I am 32..he was telling me..he wants marry me……(before the trip).
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Hi i like a girl, but how will i know if she likes me too?
Can anyone site some examples please…
there is this guy that i loved
but i wasn’t sure if i loved him
ppl say he likes me but he never talks to me
we used to be great friends but he stopped talking to me
some say he realized he like me and got more shy
while others say he just hates me now..
he only says insults to me when i try to talk to him
i tried making contact with him
but he never gives any reply back to me
some ppl think he only saying insults to be cool
i really care for him he may seem un emotional
but deep down he can be a nice person from the heart
i believe it so its true im worried
do u think he likes me back..?
or does he just completely hate me now..
its a bad feeling to love someone and to knw that that person wont be yours….it really feels that ur game is over and u become poorer than the poorest person on earth coz u lack the most precious thing anyone`s heart would desire in life…. 😦
Hi! I just browse on internet and find your blog.It’s amazing to me that your blog really…really strike my heart~~~
I will read it one by one to understand youand all your friends who visited your blog~o~
Nice to meet you, imogen~~ and I hope maybe you can help me to figure out something about my love in the future~~
Once upon a time there was a boy and a girl playing around every where trying to have all the fun they can get and one day they felt in LOVE , that boy loved her from all of his heart , he promised to make her the happiest girl on earth ,he promised to give her all of his heart , that boy reached a point that he gave her latterly all the love in the world, he drowned her in the sea of love everyone told him that she’s not good for him and that they will not last together , but he was not listening he was blinded in love .
One day he woke up and realized that she left him and that he’s ….alone , then and this is the worst part, after all that love, he found out that she didn’t love him and she cheated on him like a dozen time , actually when that guy was sacrificing his life for her , when he was thinking all day just to make her happy , when he was just trying to be a better person for her … SHE was thinking of someone else , her mind was with another guy am not going to tell you about her heart because I don’t think she have one, he was fighting everyday just to make their life better , and she was fighting everyday just to find another way to make him think that she loves him , as soon as she left she started to look for another guy , and what killed him most that he was watching all of that , he was standing right there stunned looking at her and what she’s doing and thinking how much of an idiot he was but there was nothing to be done .
She decided what she want and he had to deal with the consequences of being an idiot all that time , she broke his heart a heart the gave her the whole world in her hands, she broke an incent heart , she broke the heart that only want to make her happy….. , you know after all I don’t think my heart can forgive her , I don’t think my bleeding heart can fall in love again , though I do have some hope , am trying to live my life now but everything around me reminds me of her , I woke up everyday with her picture in my eyes , I did loved her you know .
Day after day I’ll forget all of this it’s only a matter of time but I’ll never forget my happy times , I’ll never forget how much I loved her
Hey Michel!! It must be that time of the month!
I am going through the exact same thing. My ex gf/fiancee split up with me, having ‘jumped ship!’ just when her life (and ours) was really going well! she had her head turned by another guy which is already doomed to failure (he is a widower and my ex is similar to his wife…she is just going to be a substitute wife. I gave her everything she could every want or need. I gave her my unconditional love despite her not being perfect herself. In fact far from perfect but I never asked her to change..instead I watched with admiration as she discovered her own identity and progressed as a person. what she did for me in my life was something phenomenal and I will always be grateful, but will also have this longing for her in my life. We bought a house together less than a year ago, and everything was just working. But where I thought she would be happy with the ‘settled’ life we had together, I think she believed we had ‘stagnated’. She believes I stopped trying to change for her, but in fact it was a case of no matter what I did she would always want more. , She is so confused and her thoughts are toxic. I dont know what more I can do for her, but i believe she is making the biggest mistake of her life…all because she got a little freaked and reacted to her emotions on impulse without thinking things thru. She hasnt been thinking rationally for the past month, and it seems she has hit the self-destruct button. Now I can forgive her infidelity but I am not willing to take her back. I still love her and will support her search for happiness, but it still hurts so much!
Hi! I think God is sending a sign to me. But I am not sure what it is.
I had a huge crush on a guy. And we didn’t become a couple. It was very difficult to move on with my life after I was softly rejected. But he left the city and I managed to put life together and smile again. Then, boom! This guy informed me that he’s going to work in the organization, which I was also hired lately.
I am afraid I will return to the miserable life, as soon as I see him in three months. I am really afraid of getting hurt again. I know he doesn’t need me in his life but it’s painful to acknowledge that fact.
Will you help me?
Hi
My bf broke up with me a year and a half ago. I still hang on. I could never stop thinking about him. I text him all the time and he would never reply. In that year and a half, he called me three times. We got together for a short time for two weeks or for two months. The first time he called me back. I was his date for a friends wedding. The second time was during Christmas holiday and after new years he just stopped answering my calls for six months and then the third time was because he was thinking about me alot. I know how this will make me look…but we have sex all the time and may I add he is divorced, with three adult children and he is married to his career. I myself is just finishing college and looking for a job. I know all the signs says NO NO NO!!!!! but I find it so HARD to let go. I know I’m stubborn. I’m beginning to think STUPID too! I Love this man very very much despite our inacceptable age difference. The heart does not discriminate against age, gender, race or religion but the mind and body do. We often use the left side of the brain to get things done (analytical, logical, rational and objective) And as for the body. The effect of aging is seen physically. My heart has found a home with him. I know everyone will say it will never work, I should forget about it, don’t even think about it for it’s wrong. Love did its part. I feel he loves me but just does not want to say/admit it because he knows deep down that it’s wrong, him being the much older one. Or perhaps I just don’t want to accept that I’m not loved anymore. I don’t know the reason we met. I beginning to think to point him in the right direction. He lost his way. He works alot. He hates it when I say he’s a workaholic. It offends him. But I feel that he is. He rather work than spend time with people who loves him. He can have someone else do the work, but he says that he has to and that he rather get it done than take the chance of someone else not getting it done. I love him so much. I think he lost the meaning of living. He is living only to work and be selfish. I wish I had the power to change the path he was shown or lead to. I don’t know how to direct him back. He’s going to be a lonely man. He has children, but as we all know children will eventually have their own family and leave.
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Still searching…and enjoying love. 🙂
i luv a grl . she is in my coaching i luv her very much my world glows when i saw her she is my 1st and last luv.at new year i thnk that today i propose her em type a message frm my heart then i will send her after a long time she resend me a msg which is my most confusing movment then i pray to god and open a message in this msg she wrote”sorry y….. i dnt love u because i m commited with some one else “thz is my first love so u people say what can i do now………………………………………………………:-(((((((
hey guyzz osheen dis side….
i just wanna share my experience of love….itz really special for me…..
For me love was jst a waste of time but i met a guy let us call him mr. love who changed my life, my views abt love and me too…Actually thw whole thing was itz was my sister’s marriage and he was also invited but i didnt knew who he was…He came to me n said can i dance wid u n i said yes but i donno why….then we met two or three times more and became gud frenzz…One day i was sitting wid my frenzz n he came to me and said hii i replied to him den he askd can i sit hear n said ya sure….then he was going through my notebook and after 5 min he said i hve to go and ran frm there…at the same ngt my sis was just checking my notebook and she got a letter…the was for me frm mr. love.. firstly der was a poem on tat letter then a note for me which was as followzz:
hiii osheen
I dnt knw whatz happening to me????
but jst wanna tell u tat i love u vry much….
i donno when it hpnd but i dnt hve any control on my feelings…
plzz b mine forever…
__________________________________________________
i was so touched by tat letter and said yes to him…He ws so happy after tat…Evrything was going perfect but den a girl came to me n said that she is mr. love’s ex-gf and she tld me something tat i cant write here…i ws almost broken into pieces…then we had a fgt n we both didnt tlkd to each other for next 4 months but after then he called me up n said sweety plzz dnt b upset i m really sry there was nothin like tat…And i love u a lot and then the fgt was finished…after 6 break ups we both r still together widout ne regrets n comprimises…And nw i believe in love…that guy gave me a reason to live and i love him cozz i knw hezz only mine…:-)
OK so two choices Kaylee the person i knew since fifth or fourth grade and Julia who ive known over 1year and i don’t know wich one Kaylee showed most of her love wen i was in 3-4th and Julia sometimes but i love them so much and so all i can say is cant make up the time
-juan j
Hello,
I have been working so hard in this relationship. i have persevered several instances of cheating. One day i had decided enough is enough and left this guy, but he came back pleading and pleading untill he took the next step of visiting my parents. i agreed to give him another chance. we took a step forward , went and announced to our pastor that we were intending to get married. we joined the counselling classes and things seemed ok. Untill they came home for dowry negotiations. this coincided with my boyfreind’s new job appointment. my dad asked for enough cows which seemed so much for this guy. he disagreed with my dad and all he did was talk ill of my dad to all his friends. after 3 days , he announced to the priest that he was no longer interested in marrying me. mark you, we had already started our wedding committteee paid service providers deposits, i had ordered for my gown. am telling you, i have never felt like this before, i cant explain how i felt. For real dowry separated us?
Was this guy serious all along? was he interested in me really? is it coz he had gotten a new job and thought grass was greener on the other side? am telling you if God dint exist, i would have died coz of stress. God has really given me strength and i still hope for more strength from HIm.
Once u give a chance and happens again, don’t even worry about trying or giving more chances… It happen to me and is very true once they do it is very hard for them not to do it again.
hai to everyone..i want to share my experience about love…when i was in college i meet a guy that i really hate…one time we meet again at school canteen…he ask me why i am so aloaf w/ me..i wake up one morning that the guy i really hate is the guy i really love on that time…i really love him even he has a class he came in my school only to see me…but one time my bestfriend saw him w/ another girls…mi dont know what i feel at that time i want to cry and cry but no tears falling from my eyes…but deep inside really hurt
same story about love….i meet this guy here in my place….i really beleive that love comes unexpected tym…his cousin is my co-worker so every monday i need to came to the house of her cousin because thats the only place we’ve meet if we were going to work…when i came the house of her cousin i saw him setting near at the door and i ask him is ate still here..he replied yes shes her…then i just sat down and he always look at me..he ask me if i am a co officemate of her cousin..then when ate and i came at office i ask her if the guy i saw her house is her brother..then ate perlied..no his my cousin and she ask me again…why? do you like him…i tell ate the truth yes i have a crush of your cousin..then nxt monday when i came again ate’s house i did not so him..last week of my work i meet him and he ask my # then i’ll give it to him…then days are very fast that he became my bf..and honestly i really love him and he told me that he love me also..one time i invite him to go the house of my parents…then he be w/ me..i’ll never expect that my bestfriend had a feelings for him…so i let him/her talk while im doing something only not to see my feelings…to much jealous…then when my bestfriend wants to go to the beach he wants also to be w/..i dont know i could not explain to myself, lot of question..is he like my friend also…
pls. give an advice…what is the right thing i need to do..
tnx?
hey der…its jus so gud to share ur feelings wid others…
i hav been in love wid a guy fr 4yrs…its been d perfect relationship evr…iam so mad abt him…dat i hav forgoten my frnds,my family the ppl around me…evry1…nw wen our college was over…i lost my grandmother…dat was an unbearable pain fr me…i started getting depressed n i demanded all his time.he got tired of me being so possesive n mad abt me…he tried hard to make me understand…bt i was not in a emotional condition 2 understand him…i was lost…i was scared i’ll lose him as he was planin to work in a different country n me in another country…i jus wanted him 24/7…wen he couldnt i started getting depressed..i cant sleep i cant eat…i dont feel like talking to any1.i dont feel like seeing any1…all i want is him…he is d only 1 who can make me happy…tdy he said its better v end this relationship…better for both of us…as dis hurt n pain is taking us no over…bt dats not possible…i need him…i cant live widout him…i hav even tried givin up my life…iam so mad…i jus want him in life…nothing more…wont he understand d love i hav fr him?…wont he come bak?….i knw he loves me…bt he thinks he is falling out of love.
plz help me.i dont knw wot to do.i cant evn think fr myself.
I happened to come across this site tonight and i am really glad i did.. There have been so many stories inwhich i could relate to in one way or another…
There is so much i could say about the experiences i have had so far in my life.. I may only be 24 years old but love is a powerfull thing that can twist and turn and that will forever change the people we become!
I have had my fair share of up’s and down’s already in my life.. I didnt have a nice childhood alot of things happened for me growing up and because of that it has affected the way that i see and feel love!
For a very long time i shut out the world, the people around me, always hideing behind a false smile untill i met the person who would change my life forever!
I am no longer with that person because of certain circumstances but to have been loved and love there is no greater feeling in this world… It is hard to let go of something that felt so right! But sometimes love just isnt enough to go on! It’s not the memories we have but it is the way we chose to leave them… You will never truly forgett a person you have loved they will always hold a very special place in your heart!
But it’s taking the good times from those memories we have and using them to our best advantage in other aspects of our lives! Love is something that will never easily be overcome! It is an always changeing and forever growing aspect of our lives! Nothing ever stays the same people change, people grow life always has its own direction that sometimes our hearts just cant follow…
But it’s looking deep within yourself and knowing that you have at one time loved or been loved and there is no greater purpose in this life!
“Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful.”
hi stassy! thanks for sharing! 🙂
i had a crush on a guy for 7 years , and he had sexual harassed me , and he had broken my heart many times. and now he is dating a girl call Maya, and i cried over it lots, and he has no idea he hurt me so much and i hoped every night that he might have a crush on me too . but no he doesn’t , i feel like an idiot because I’m over him know , and that was one of the reasons that i was cutting myself.
Hi,
After 8 Years…….. Can’t let go..
I just wanted to share how I feel and things that have happen to me in my life that I don’t seem to understand. I am hopelessly in love with the father of my first son. I lived with him for 2 years back in 2000 had a son and all the sudden I lost him. His ex wife decided to start making his and my life miserable saying stuff about the other 2 kids he had with her. He stopped coming by to see my boy but always called. All the sudden he disappeared even the calls stopped. My opinion this was a fairy tale, it was so perfect, love was in the air… the man of my dreams… everything was so perfect and I lost him….. It’s been 8 yrs and I still feel the same way… I moved on with my life got married had another child and still have that feeling. I really don’t know how to make this feeling go away or control it. Many people says “forget him, he is not good for you” but I know this was special.
I have tried and tried. I moved on with my life and now I’m getting divorce and now after 7 years he is back in my life out of nowhere…. All my feeling and memories flooded back to me even stronger. I have waited for this moment so bad that I don’t even know if its god or bad to have him back in my life. We have talked and all the things that have happen to me while he was away have happen to him without even me telling him they have happen to me as well. He says that I’m back in his life and he will nor loose me again. That he has dreamed about having me back in his life and can’t believe is really happening.
My husband find out now he is going crazy cuz even do he doesn’t want t get divorced, after all I gave my husband 5 chances already during our marriage and is enough…. Now my husband contacted his wife and it’s a big mess… I don’t want to loose him again!!!! but he is acting so strange because he says that is not the time for us to be together and changed his personality completely since the incident happen he says we need to stop because things are getting hot around. I’m so confused!!!! Don’t really know what to think, I know we both have many things to do and fix before we could actually be together but I don’t want to get hurt anymore but at the same time don’t want to let go…. Not again!!!! I will not give up on him again.
I just don’t know if I’m thinking the right way or not or if I just need to let gooo.
i lov a girl bt she z vid sum othr guy……..
i tried 2 4gt hr bt i cnt…
i hv tld hr abut dis bt she says she lovs him n vil nvr break up vid him………..
tht girl n i r only casual frnds nw
v both dint knew each othr in da past bt since i hv seen hr i really dnt feel lik doing nythng
i jst follow hr where she goes n v chat in da evening as frnds bt aol dis cant continue lik dis always so wt shud i do ??????????
sumtimes wn i see tht guy vid hr i feel lik beating him 2 death …….
plz help me out
we met online..i live in US and he lives in BD. i didn’t believe in love until i realised how much this guy loves me.but i don’t no i am confused i am ugly so how can anyone love an ugly person like me.he only saw few good pictures of me.(you know when u take pictures and some of them come out good but sometime it doesn’t look like you) i am embrassed to even show my face to him. he tried to commit suicide when he found out that i didn’t want him in my life..but now he is fine becos him family is with him..before when i was a little girl i use to be so emotional but now it’s like i don’t have feelings anymore after i have been though family problems. but i suddenly cry for him and i wish i could hug him..and i love him..but he says to me i have to see him now or he will continue hurting himself and to be honest its impossible for me to meet him now..please help…the thing that scares me is he really does hurt him self. please help…
Have you ever sat around and heard people talk about their love stories: how they met, their first kiss, and everything else in between and its all very wonderful for them. You just sit there and wonder will that ever happen to you or why does everything bad happen to you.
I met this boy named andrew and everything was going well at first. One day… he had asked me to come meet him, his brother Ethan, and his best friend Steven. Andrew was so degrading to me by the way he would touch me ad talked to me. Of course I did not follow with it. After that day things went down hill.
Andrew never could except my past nor a many of other things. It was awful that I did not realize. I had remembered that I had got his friend’s number (steven) about a local job. I called steven. I had a feeling that he knew something about Andrew’s dirty little mind. Of course Steven told me everything an I told him everything. It seemed to be a night that was very different. Steven asked me out for a date. I denied him.
He was different from others. I guess you could say I wasn’t looking for him at all.
Things grew between us and I finally gave into him.
I have been dating him for a year now and I know that he is my one and only but his parents are getting in our way and I have tried everything to try to fix it. His parents are trying to keep us from talking and seeing each other but we have been lucky that we are.
He says he loves me and wants to be with me as well but won’t seem to stand up to his parents. His parents are awful to him. Steven thinks he owes them something but I don’t know what.
So I want to know what to do because its taking a toll on my health but I don’t want them to win either.
1st- u shud not belive on ny1 u meet on social networking sites
2nd-if he aktually loves u thn he has 2 accept u da way u r
n u shud not feel embaresed coz if he rejects u thn its his bad luk tht he z missisng sum1 whu loves him so much n its he whu z nt worth u so olways smile n b happy 😉
hi..
i m a guy from Baranagar….
i had a very dear friend of mine…we are friends since about 4 years …we used to read together in the same class..we used to talk and have fun together…
and few days ago i thought i realized that i had fallen in love with her…i used to wait all day for her sms or call..and when a sms used to come from her, it was the happiest moments of the day..whenever whatever did i do, she came into my mind…This is love…
i was ready to do any thing for her, to see her happy..a week ago she had fallen sick..earlier i didnt believe in prayers like “God Please…” but the day i came to know that she was sick, i dont know why i wanted to believe in prayers..i prayed to god “Make her good, if you want to make aomeone sick, make me sick..but cure her”..wasnt this love…only a lover wouldnt mind going down to see his love go up..and the next day when i met her she was alright..it was a miracle..
and then i could no more suppress my feelings ..i tried to tell her about my feelings but she couldnt understand it..she became upset with me and started avoiding me ..now whatever i ask her she doesnt even care to reply….why cant she understand my feelings..why cant she just love me..i know most people would advise me to forget her but i just simply cannot forget her..how can i??
i love her so much..why does love has to be the other name of pain…why cant people fall in love with someone who can love them…why cant every thing be simple…i will never be able to forget her in my life…i love her….and will love her till he last days of my life…
OK well here’s the thing. I went out with this guy during my freshman year. He was a sophomore at the time. I couldn’t even believe it myself while I was going out with him. He was just too good for me. And well somethings are too good to be true.
Our relationship started out alright. We saw each other at school a lot. I thought I loved the guy already. So yeah, I actually told him those three little words, “I love you”. He said it back but it didn’t really feel right. We only went out for exactly 20 days. 02.04.10 was our date. He broke up with me on the 24th of that month. I was crushed.
We didn’t talk for about a month. It felt kinda weird. But as time went on I started to text him again. We actually started to tell each other everything about ourselves. We ended up being real close to each other. I thought that we’d end up going back out. But then again there weren’t that many chances of that.
Now to this day he’s my BFF. That’s what we decided to call each other since it was kinda true. We text each other every day. He’s going out with some female right now that I’m not so close with but we got nothing against each other. It seems like he’s really into her. Her tagging name is REVO and his is ARE. They already combined them both and made it AREVO. That makes it serious, no? Well I have asked him if he’s taking his relationship seriously. He said yeah. When he told me that I felt like someone punched my stomach. That’s when I realized that now I actually feel that i love him.
Now every time I see REVO’s status on Myspace saying “Chilled with the babe today” and stuff like that, it really ticks my off. I feel like she knows I’m in love with her man and she’s doing that to torture me. He’s my BFF. I think he has a feeling about how I feel for him but he tries to avoid it thinking I’ll forget how I feel. Well I can’t do that. I’m in love with ARE. We’re BFF’s and I’m madly jealous about him spending too much time with REVO. Friends tell me that’s just not right. But what can I do?
I’m a 15 year old sophomore that’s in love with a 16 year old tagging junior. And I’m jealous of him spending time with HER. I’m single but my heart is sure taken. He just doesn’t know it.
That’s just love.
or am I wrong?
Hi,
I’ve started dating this guy for about not more than a month, we’ve met through a training course. WE didn’t expected anything that we are going to be serious such as this one. He’s 25, and I am 24. He’s such a nice guy I guess and I like him.. a lot. Yeah, we had little fights but that’s pretty normal I guess. We still end up sweet and enjoying each other’s company. We were laughing and we had fun. But things are different now as he just left yesterday to go back home and starts travelling again. He said we are still going to communicate and keep in touch with each other..but I don’t know..even if I want to believe that there’s always some doubt in my mind or there’s always “what-ifs”. I remembered when I did asked him one night before he left, I asked him like this, ” Do you want non-permanent or permanent or perhaps it’s just for fun?” He replied, ” Of course I am having fun..” I know, but that’s not what I meant. Just answered my question. Then he said, thinking and sighed, “I want non-permanent till I found the permanent…” So, I was stucked like, so he therefore concluded that, I am not the permanent or he will not consider myself as permanent. That’s hurt me but I have to accept it. AS of today, we still communicating but I am sure things are totally different as the days goes by, in my case, it will be the same, but I cannot assure myself that he will be the same for me. Any guys who can share their thoughts??
hii guys m in 10 class. i have a boyfriend whom i love alot and even he loves me alot. we are in same school and class. but like other love stories even we had a problem that he is a muslim and i m a hindu. m going to be shifted next year which i dont want me and my boyfriend are really very upset with it. whenever i think abt it i get tears in my eyesand that is same to my boyfriend also. whenever we talk about our future we got more upset because of opposite religions. we don’t know what to do but we are in love with each other. i just know that i love him and i can’t live without him. i am going to die without him. i want to spend my hole lie with him if you are having any suggestions for our future or any way that can stop me from shifting pleaz pleaz pleaz pleaz reply……..
hii guys m in 10 class. i have a boyfriend whom i love alot and even he loves me alot. we are in same school and class. but like other love stories even we had a problem that he is a muslim and i m a hindu. m going to be shifted next year which i dont want .me and my boyfriend are really very upset with it. whenever i think abt it i get tears in my eyesand that is same to my boyfriend also. whenever we talk about our future we got more upset because of opposite religions. we don’t know what to do but we are in love with each other. i just know that i love him and i can’t live without him. i am going to die without him. i want to spend my hole life with him if you are having any suggestions for our future or any way that can stop me from shifting pleaz pleaz pleaz pleaz reply……..
hey frns m sameer…..she is my juniour…we came to knw each othr thru ma sis…i luv her very much…i cant live widout her…we just had one date nd m thinkin of callin it off
She just dnt undrstnd me…i usd 2 share evrythn wid her…she got uncmfrtbl wid some naughty talking…she thinks dat m sex crazy but m completely diffrent…i luv her…but i dnt wanna talk to her cause i think she vl nt b able to undrstnd me… so jus pray fr me ppl…nd nikki i wish u happy lyf ahead…vry happy lyf indeed
To Linda, I love you still, though 5 years have past.
ARE THERE REALLY OTHER FISH
LIVING IN THE SEA?
THAT WALK & TALK & LOOK LIKE YOU
AND ARE THEY CLOSE TO FINDING ME?
IN MY MIND I SEE YOU LOOKING UP
YOUR SEXY EYES FIXED ON MINE
ILL WAIT FOREVER ON YOU MY DEAR
FOR OUR LIVES TO INTERTWINE
BABY THERE ARE NO OTHER FISH
IN THE NEVER ENDING SEAS
THAT WALK & TALK &LOOK LIKE YOU
AND MAKE MY ‘ I ‘ TURN INTO ME
YOURE THE FISH I CAUGHT
MY LOVE THAT GOT AWAY FROM ME
AS FAR AS ME & THE NEVERENDING SEAS
WHEN YOU RETURN, FOREVER WAITING IS WHERE I’LL BE
hi guys
i had lyked a guy vry much when i was in 5th class till 8th standard i lyked him.He too lyked me but he never said me his frndz forced him many tyms 2 propose me but he never then another guy came in my life i didnt knewed tht he lyked me from 6th standard i got to know tht in 9th standard when he chtted to one of my friend on fb she said me tht the boy lyks me first i said yuckkkkkk but then i made a fake id on fb to know how much does he lyks me i chtted with him nd he said tht he lyks me vry much but other 19 boys lyks me from our skool .Then my frnd gave him my id on yahoo nd i chtted wid him many tyms as a frnd . HE told me many tyms tht he lyks mebut i told i dont lyk him.my frndz told me many tyms tht today i am saying him yuck but tomorrow i m going to lyk tht boy only.after a few days i only thought abt him day nd night every tym i think abt him but i believe tht i dont lyk him
guys plz help me
whether i lyk him or not
Okay so here’s one of my stories:
I moved to Germany and like 5 months after or so I met this English guy. Right when we met I realized I liked him, and he seemed to like me a lot too so we hung out more often and got into a relationship. I should say I still had my heart broken from my ex-boyfriend whom I had to leave when I moved maybe the first month of this new relationship. It only lasted 3 months because it just wasn’t working for us. We were different, had different thoughts, different ideas about life and it just ended, but At that point I already had feelings for him. It was then when I realized we rushed into a relationship without even knowing eachother properly.
Time went by and because our friends in common we saw eachother every weekend. I still had feelings for him. I could feel butterflies in my stomach every time I saw him and his smile just made my day happier every time. So as time was going by I started to notice he was flirting with me again, and I really liked him but I was confused. I didn’t think we should date again because If it didn’t work the first time, why would it work a second? Already 6 months had gone by after we broke up when we decided to just go on dates and see how that went without getting into a relationship again but after a month we called it off since it felt weird. I could notice he kept staring at me all the time and he would flirt every with me every now an then, and I still liked him but I just thought we couldn’t e together because it wouldn’t work. So like a month after that he showed no interest towards me at all, and of course then I started to like him more and more and more. He started ignoring me so I suddenly lost interest in him and then BOOM he’s begging me to come back together! After almost a year! I said no and have him reasons why our relationship wouldn’t work but he promised me he would change and he said we would make it work and that nothing could break us apart now. After he promised me heavens and starts I accepted with the condition that we tried first how it went without making it official. After a month and a half we made it official. He really did change. Our relationship was so perfect and so good I could only smile all day. The dates were perfect, he was perfect, even I felt completely perfect. Everything was a fairytale until summer came. Of course he went to England and I went where I come from. We were apart for 6 weeks and that didn’t do any good, it made things go really bad. After almost 5 months of being back together and one week before I came back to Germany, he texted me it wasn’t working for him. He don’t explain much. He barely explained actually. We had a fight the week before that about not texting enough and not wanting to text eachother (which was all because we were apart and miles away). All his promises of making it work, loving me, and never going to let me go faded away. We’re still friends. Not even a month after the breakup went by when he was already asking me to try again. I can’t keep doing this to myself. I can’t keep going back with him whenee he feels like it so he can also dump me whenever he feels like it. I miss him. I really do. I think about him every day, but the weirdest thing is I don’t get sad… I don’t understand how I can miss him without being sad. I feel like I want a part of him back but hate the guts of the other part. So yeah, any comments?
Hi! I’m 18 years old girl. I want to share my love story. I know him since childhood n we’ve been good friends since many years. When I was in 11th std I fell for him. I told him I have a crush but he didn’t have any feelings for me so we continued being friends. We became too close friends after all this and I gave up on the thought of dating him. After few months he asked me out. But I already liked another guy who didn’t have any feelings for me. We were still very best friends. He loved me so much and he would make me feel special everyday. I finally decided to give our relationship a chance. We were doing good. I was crazy for him. He loved me like crazy. We often planned about future , our marriage and everything. But suddenly something went wrong. We had a fight. None of us tried to sought it out coz we were stubborn. One day out of frustration I said I don’t want a relationshp at d moment. I told him I need a break. When right time comes I’ll come back to you. It wasn’t a breakup but a compromise. He said we’ll be friends and we were still best friends.. We often met. But I never realised he strongly feels for me. He was actually going through pain coz I was giving my other friends more time. And I just didn’t realise dat. I thought things were normal. But they were about to get worse. Until one day when I realised I really want him back in my life. But the worst part is he said he already gave up on me and he doesn’t love me anymore. I’m broken. Coz few days back when we met I could actually see it in his eyes dat he loves me a lot. But I don’t know what happened suddenly. He says he doesn’t want love. I badly need him back in my life. The memories of him make me love him even more. I don’t know what exactly is going on in his mind. I just can’t accept that he doesn’t love me anymore. Coz I know how much he loved me. He didn’t give me a clue that he is actually trying to get over me. I never wanted him to do that. I just wanted space so I didn’t tell him that I still loved and cared for him. I never had a clue that due to dis temporary decision I would lose him permanently. Now He says we’ll be best friends like before. He doesn’t want to lose me as a friend. He says right now he doesn’t even want to think of being with me again even for future. He says he might fall for someone else. He says we’ll be friends and see what happens. He is stubborn. He has made up his mind that he doesn’t want me back coz he thinks I’m gonna hurt him again. But I’m so sure and I have so much faith in my love that things won’t get worse like before. Coz this time I’ve fallen for him harder dan before. Can we find a way back into love? Can he be mine once again? I can wait for him. I was just trying to make him feel special by sending gifts. He says he loved d gifts but it won’t have any effect on him anymore. He says that won’t make him love me. When I told him to keep my gifts forever he said he’ll not lose them at any cost. Does he still love me? I need him as my life partner coz nothing can make me smile like he does. What should I do? I told him I’ll be friends with him. But I’m very hurt that he isn’t mine anymore and he says he can’t see me hurt. He told me to get over him coz loving him will only hurt me. But I don’t wanna give up. Coz I know how happy we were with each other. I have a strong feeling that I’ll get him back. But I’m too scared. I can’t afford to lose him. Please help me!
we met 10 years ago but really haven’t spoken most of those 10 year, we re-met recently and sparks flew again, maybe for good this time.