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We met one summer’s day
We smiled and said our names
the way two people often do
He was Capricorn
And the love was born
Although he had a wedding vow
He loved me anyhow
The way two people often do
In a special style
We make love a while
And then he’d go
And I’d knowHe belongs there
Where is it I belong?

…And so at work each day
To friends I’d have to say
Our love would last forevermore
They don’t know his name
How can I explain?
When they don’t know
Like I know…

I loved so willingly
Though he is killing me
With love that never will be mine
I love you, he’ll say
In a special way
Then he goes home
And I know…

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awakening.gifA time comes in your life when you finally get it… When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere, the voice inside your head cries out – ENOUGH!

Enough fighting and crying, or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes, you begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening…

You realize that it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world, there aren’t always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you and in the process, a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are … and that’s OK. (They are entitled to their own views and opinions.) And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself and in the process, a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn’t do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it’s not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself and in the process, a sense of safety & security is born of self-reliance.

Then you learn about love. Romantic love and familial love. How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away. You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship. You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name.

You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes.

You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love; and you learn that you don’t have the right to demand love on your terms, just to make you happy.

You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won’t settle for less. You allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you, to glorify you with his touch and in the process, you internalize the meaning of self-respect.

You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom. You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions, you learn not to personalize things. You learn that God isn’t punishing you or failing to answer your prayers; it’s just life happening.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted; things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about; a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself, by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your heart’s desire. You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind, and you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side you take a stand, you take a deep breath and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.

By: Virginia Marie Swift

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The Perfect Girl


A friend asked a gentleman how it is that he never married ?

Replied the gentleman, “Well, I guess I just never met the right woman … I guess I’ve been looking for the perfect girl.”

“Oh, come on now,” said the friend, “Surely you have met at least one girl that you wanted to marry.”

“Yes, there was one girl .. once. I guess she was the one perfect girl .. the only perfect girl I really ever met. She was just the right everything .. I really mean that she was the perfect girl for me.”

“Well, why didn’t you marry her?” asked the friend.

“She was looking for the perfect man,” he said.


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  • I gave you life, but cannot live it for you.
  • I can teach you things, but I cannot make you learn.
  • I can give you directions, but I cannot be there to lead you.
  • I can allow you freedom, but I cannot account for it.
  • I can take you to church, but I cannot make you believe.
  • I can teach you right from wrong, but I cannot always decide for you.
  • I can buy you beautiful clothes, but I cannot make you beautiful inside.
  • I can offer you advice, but I cannot accept it for you.
  • I can give you love, but I cannot force it upon you.
  • I can teach you to share, but I cannot make you unselfish.
  • I can teach you respect, but I cannot force you to show honor.
  • I can advise you about friends, but cannot choose them for you.
  • I can advise you about sex, but I cannot keep you pure.
  • I can tell you the facts of life, but I can’t build your reputation.
  • I can tell you about drinks, but I can’t say “no” for you.
  • I can warn you about drugs but I can’t prevent you from using them.
  • I can tell you about lofty goals, but I can’t achieve them for you.
  • I can teach you about kindness, but I can’t force you to be gracious.
  • I can warn you about sins, but I cannot make you moral.
  • I can pray for you, but I cannot make you walk with God.
  • I can tell you how to live, but I cannot give you eternal life.
  • I can love you with unconditional love all of my life… and I will.

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“Got to get you out of my mind, but I can’t escape from the feeling.”


I want to tell you that I love you, but I’m afraid of the silence that might follow.”


“Sometimes I lie about the time in the morning, so you’ll stay next to me a little longer.”


“The worst feeling isn’t being lonely. It’s being forgotten by someone you could never forget.”








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Find Someone


Find someone who will kiss you just before the traffic light turns green. Who will close his eyes when he hugs you, who will patiently wait for you after class or after work. Who will smell your hair every chance he gets, who will wipe your sweat with his hanky. Who will sing your favorite song even if he can’t carry a tune. Who will let you rest over his shoulder. Who’ll let you sleep on his lap and will give you the first and last bite of his burger. Who’ll squeeze your hand tighter when you squeezed his… Find someone who occupies your dream every night. And when you find him never let him go.

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goodwoman.jpgA good woman is proud. She respects herself and others. She is aware of who she is. She neither seeks definition from the person she is with, nor does she expect them to read her mind. She is quite capable of articulating her needs.

A good woman is hopeful. She is strong enough to make all her dreams come true. She knows love, therefore she gives love. She recognizes that her love has great value and must be reciprocated. If her love is taken for granted, it soon disappears.

A good woman has a dash of inspiration and a dabble of endurance. She knows that she will at times have to inspire others to reach the potential God gave them.

A good woman knows her past, lets go of her fears, understands her present and forces toward the future.

A good woman knows God. She knows that with God the world is her playground, but without God she will just be played with.

A good woman does not live in fear of the future because of her past.

Instead, she understands that her life experiences are merely lessons meant to bring her closer to self-knowledge and unconditional self-love…

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