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Everything happens for a reason, what’s supposed to happen will happen… if things don’t go your way, it can be stressful, painful, and hard, but you don’t always have to be in control. It’s all just a part of the grand scheme of things. Don’t let your emotions cloud your vision. Don’t ever fail to see the bigger picture. You may not understand why things are happening the way they are, but soon enough you’ll know.
No matter what your problem is, big or small, it usually entails a portion of your heart getting broken. Sometimes, it’s only a bruise, sometimes it feels like it’s shattered into a million pieces. When dealing with a broken heart, it can be devastating and utterly painful, but sometimes it is just God’s way of calling you back to him, to make you grow as a person, or maybe you have to experience that to pave the way for something much better.
When overcome with hurt and confusion, it’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture. You tend to focus on the present, and feel the enormity of your problem, you feel like you’ve got the biggest problem in the world, and you feel alone and don’t know what to do. And most often than not, you feel the tendency to take matters into your own hands. You tend to do things and you do everything you can to control the situation. And then when things don’t go according to what you planned, you’ll get frustrated and bitter. You don’t realize, that no matter how you try to control things your way, if it’s not meant to be, it’s not going to happen. If you refuse to accept it and force it, you’re only prolonging the inevitable. You’ll only delay God’s true plan for you… He has a plan for you if only you learn to be open and let go of the things that he wants you to let go of. So, stop manipulating things. A solution that is manipulated will not bring real happiness.
Problems will always be a part of life, and at times when you’re down, when you’re at your lowest point, talk to God. If you ask sincerely, he will enlighten you, clear your confusion, ease your pain, calm your fears, and heal your heart. It’s not going to provide you an instant solution to your problem, but God works in mysterious ways, and as long as you walk with Him, and just trust and believe, the sooner you’ll get to that place where you’ll see everything clearly, and you’ll finally begin to understand. Everything happens for a reason. You may not understand the reason now, but you will when the time is right.
Hi I love your blog and I really can’t help but read all your posts! Keep it up! Thank you for inspiring me today and for the nice words you wrote in this post.
May God be with you always as you continue inspiring others.
hi krished! thank you for your comment! i wrote this one when i was feeling very low. it was then that i realized, God was softly tapping my shoulder, getting my attention, reminding me that I was taking Him for granted. Sometimes, we all need to be reminded that He really should be the center of our lives. 🙂 i’m glad to know that God is inspiring you as well. take care and God bless!
hey, i really like this. it makes me think my best friend is losing her dad and the very top part makes soo much sense, we don’t know why it is happening to him. i really like it alot, because it will help all of us im sure one day. thank you
you’re very welcome nic… i was feeling sad when i wrote this post… and i just wanted to pour everything out on paper.. i’m glad you were able to grasp and appreciate the meaning that I wanted to convey… it’s very important for us to learn and remember to TRUST even though we don’t fully understand the reasons. and yes, that includes losing the people we love. thank you so much for taking time to comment. 🙂
Hi I just wanted to say that I happened upon this on google and wanted to thank you for this inspirational piece. I recently had a very hard and emotional thing happen to me and after reading this I feel much better. It’s almost as if a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. You wrote this very well and in a way I myself could understand. Lol. Thank you very much for this 🙂
I’d like to thank you too Veronica, for telling me all this. It really means a lot to me, to know that another person has been touched by what I’ve written. I meant every word of it, and it came from deep within my heart. I hope it has somehow helped you. God bless you always. 🙂
“Everything happens for a reason, what’s supposed to happen will happen… if things don’t go your way, it can be stressful, painful, and hard, but you don’t always have to be in control. ” I totally agree with what you’ve said above. Sometimes discouragements and worries start the moment things didn’t go well for us. We often forget that God is still in control of everything and that He wants the best for us. As what Apostle Paul said in Romans 8:28 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”. As i was reading your article above, i was reminded by the man named Job. He lost all his riches, closest friends and his family yet he trusted and praised God for everything, and in the end God blessed him doubled. As what God said, “For your thoughts are not my thoughts neither your ways are not my ways.” May God bless you as you trust Him daily.
I love this! I will read this always! can I share your blog to my friends in friendster? Thanks!
hi joy! sure, you’re more than welcome to share this blog to your friends… the more, the better. 😉 i’m so happy you appreciate what i’ve written.. and i hope it helps you in whatever way, as you journey through life. thanks so much!
I love this. This gave me a lot of inspiration. Beautiful. I will come to read more on this blog.
Hi imogen
I don’t believe in God but I do believe that everything happens for a reason. You have a nice blog here.
Wat u said in ur blog is quite true…A lovely message!!!
i went throu a rough patch abt three months back (My GF ditched me for another guy). Now when i step back and look at it – i feel that it is good that it is all over – i suffered for a short time but i am sure that it would have been worse in the long run!!!
this is nice except theres one thing.. the present is exactly what you DON”T focus on in times of distress… if you were focusing on the present, your mind would be free. But the mind is always stuck in the past and the future which causes most of peoples pain
Dear Imogen,
I am under high state of failure and lost the confidence in myself. I feel like a loser after failing in all my battles. Ur message did inspire me a lot for whats awaiting tomorrow( the real tomorrow).
I need to get up.. shed the past and say everything happens for a reason 🙂
Divya
hi,
i’m going through a really hard time at the moment. my gf who i really loved ended our relationship 2 weeks ago, completly out of the blue. we have had an on off relationship for the past 10 months and she simply said ‘we’re not meant to be’ and this really hurt me because i know it’s the truth. so i came to this site as i also believe that everything happens for a reason. i just want to say thank you for you blog it has healed my heart a little and keeps me hopeful that god does have a plan for me and that something better is coming my way. thank you.
hi i just randomly came across your blog… but i love reading it… i guess i’ll come here often since now… =))
Hi
This is the best blog i had ever hear thanks for making my day. This blog a be referred in many ways relationship and the lost of a love one. I live day by day saying this to my friend and family. but i really need to let my ex see this so she can understand when you let someone go it can bring you more pain than happiness…….. THANKS FOR MAKING MY DAY
I luved it….Can associate so much with myself. Everything, I think of which made me burst into tears and felt helpless in past, makes me contented that something better was awaited, which ia chieved in its own Sweet time. Last year, i felt really bad when the client requirement for Japan was withdrawn. I wanted to go abroad. That time, I didnt realize, what is in store for me instead..Within 3 months, I flew…n that too country, which I always wanted…So, I can only say….There’s a master plan…Believe in him…even in ur worst times, which according to you are worse and everything shall pass….The more pain ur in, more better times are awaited……Just keep the faith in him and leave things in his hands….
Hello
i have just recently came across this blog and omg i dont no why but i got quite emotional. i have been going throo sum rather odd paranoia and have been hiding away. i no tht this blog is for more of a relationship type. i havent ever really ever prayed to God but sum reason i feel very ashamed tht i have not and have jus blanked him out of my life. i have done some major sinfull things which has led to my paranoia and bleve tht it will soon stop. i now no tht i have to face what i have done, come to turms with it and get my self bac out there, go with the flo insted of trapping myself by rethinkin everything over and over again
Thank you so much for this. God is in everyones heart even th people who forgotten him (L)
thank you for writing this blog. i am suffering from a broken heart, and your words help me understand a little bit more of what is happening. Thanks you
Thank you. I really needed to hear it in the way you wrote it. It has helped me so much today. thank you.
I really love this blog……When I was in sorrow was gng through some web pages,suddenly found this blog.I’m really encouraged a lot .I feel like when I was lonely and was asking God to answer me ,He spoke to me in this way.I’m really happy for u becos God has choosen ur blog to encorage so many ppl…..Thank u and God Bless u abundantly
Dear Imogen, I really love your blog it helped me open my eyes and see why things happen .I lost my brother/bestfriend on Feburary 28, and it felt like i lost my world and i just didnt know what i could do or how to handle it i mean i help people with their problems but then again i have problems of my own and i have just no idea how to handle it.I started doing something that i didnt want to do but its the only way i can forget about it well sometimes it least.Sometimes i just sit alone in my room at night an think of Him and listen to His favorite Songs. I also just lost one of my teacher on July 3rd, that i became very close to.I just cant take anymore of this . Icant keep losing people i love its to hard and im Scared of whats going to happen next.
really nice..!
hi! people like u may God bless always..keep on inspiring positive thoughts in life… thank you for those very inspiring message!
This is such a brilliant article.
I’m going through a very tough time at the moment. Just broke up with my girlfriend of two years. I loved her so much. We were going to get married this year, but things just didn’t work out. Too many arguments, personality clashes etc.
But the more I chat to her, the more I realise that it happened for the better, our relationship had run its course. And this article just puts the icing on the cake.
Thank you to whoever wrote it. Feel free to email me back, would love to hear from you.
I strongly belief that everything happens for the reason because theres nothing that can happen without a reason
Hi there……You so remind me of my best friend, he always has such awesome positive energy coming out to help me, whenever i was down, just like your thoughts, its so nice to have u there, thanks its lovely reading your posts. Happy writing…..We need to love a li’l more, have faith a li’l more and smile a li’l more…….and spread this to all a li’ more!! Cheers 😀
Dear Imogen, Thanks a bunch 4 this inspirin piece. it really is helpin me out. goin thru a lot of emotional turmoil due to the way things r happening… was wondering that “does everything really happen 4 a reason?” n then i found this thru google. Started hoping that everything will fall into place again…
dont know whether i will get ur reply but will ask.i was in love with this girl for the last 6 months. i tried avoiding her twice but she still came in my life. i prayed to god for 2 months everyday for her and to get her in my life but it didn’t happen.the way i felt for her i never felt this for anyone. i felt as if god has sent my soul mate and i felt so strong for her. there were such strong vibrations when she was around and i felt that god has sent the one who is suppose to be for me. however she is now engaged with somebody else. i just feel devastated at this pt of time. i really want to know will there be any positive outcome out of this because i felt she was just perfect in everyway and its going to be almost impossible to find someone like her or better than her.
will wait for ur reply.
Thanks
Manish…
I just finished my prayer and instant came to this page after typing in a question [to which the answer keeps eluding me, for so long]. Again, I don’t believe this was for a reason, or that god lead me here; I have strayed way too far away from God to believe that anything is other than pure chance/ coincidence – even the biggest miracles. One things I wanted to say is that this blog is excellent, despite what opinion I may hold re god, and religion, and one soon, I hope I will be able to believe again, and offer other such amazing advise. So, thank you!
i do hope that you will someday, believe in God again. there’s nothing more beautiful than faith and love. God bless!
Beautiful.
Hi! I love your blog. can I share this to my tumblr? I can relate to your situation. I can feel you when your writing this.thank you so much for inspiring me. I’m making myself miserable of what happened. I just want to read it all over again.
hi,
Some time i lose my temper and go on saying what ever is in my mind, even that time i m not thinking what i m saying. but after few minute i realized that my way of talking is wrong. i known i m not a good guy.
great article… inspiring… thanks alot :).
wow its a really nice blog
thnks lots for sharing it 🙂
GOD Bless you dear
wonnnderrfuullllllllll… loved it.. simply lovved it..
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GOD is always by our side we just have to BELIEVE, HAVE FAITH AND BE PATIENT…
Hi
This is really amazing. God has a plan for every one. so true. i too believe that what happens is for good however it is a test by god and one has to pass it those who pass get greater reward of their life and those who fail never understand what they lost.
But the most important thing in this it to keep focusing and being patient enough to let the time go. I hope you will agree to this.
THOUGHT PROVOKING 🙂
I am ESTATIC..
Great inspiration ! Imogen ,thank you for touching so many hearts and lives.
May the Lord continue to inspire you and bless you.
Shalom
you realy made my day ..when i was reading the i was feeling low ..bt after reading ur article i amm full f recharged enegyy ..i h millions of question bt i think the same that what happens for a reson nd its nt necessary to serch answer f every question ..we will get at the rght tme ..god has the own way f revealing it
very big thanks for this blog,, thanks for the best author..more power..