Hey, you. Are you broken hearted? Or are you experiencing love and you feel like bursting you wanna share it with the whole world? Do you ever feel the need to share your love story, or perhaps you just feel the need to write down your experience, pour out your emotions, or maybe you want to get some opinions about what you’re going through at this point in your life. I know we can share our feelings and problems with a friend, a parent, or a sister… but sometimes, let’s admit it, these people know us so well, that they will always give advice or reactions based on our personality, or based on how they know us as a person. There will always be the thing called ‘BIASED‘. Right?
But think about it, don’t you ever wonder how another person might react to your story, when that person doesn’t know you? When that person doesn’t know your past, or background? Don’t you ever wonder if there are people out there experiencing what you’re going through right now? Don’t you wonder how they might handle the same situation? Do you ever feel the need to share a love problem, a thought, a situation, a heartbreak, a love story, but you don’t feel like sharing them with a friend, a sibling, or someone who knows you?
Sometimes it can be liberating and comforting to share your feelings with a stranger. Someone who wouldn’t judge you, someone who can just listen and sympathize with you. And best of all, you wouldn’t have to reveal yourself! You can just remain anonymous, and people won’t judge you because they don’t know you. Sometimes, it’s a refreshing thing to be given the chance to just pour everything out. You can show how angry you are, how happy you are, how sad and lonely you are… by writing a few lines, people will react based on your STORY, and not focus on YOU.
Please feel free to share your love problems on this page. I know there are lots of people out there, especially women, who are going through so much in their lives right now, may it be GOOD or BAD. We women have emotions that no men can ever completely fathom. So I’m inviting you to share your story… (Guys are welcome too!) It doesn’t have to be very long, just write whatever it is your heart tells you to write. Maybe you’re in a complicated situation with your partner, or you had a fight with your loved one, or maybe you feel so deeply in love with this person and you wanna share it with us, please feel free to write a comment here. I would LOVE to hear all about your stories. I’m here as a FRIEND, even though we don’t know each other. Although I can’t promise to respond to every story, know that I will read each and every one. Also, please feel free to give advice to posted problems that you think you can relate to. You never know who you can help with just a few words of wisdom. PEACE!
Hi,
I found your website through browsing coz i’m looking for this particular song. I love everything about your website, the look, feel, contents… etc…
Anyway, just to share my piece of cake. It’s been so long that i am hopelessly in love with this girl and a lot of people says “forget her, she’s not good for you”
and so i tried and tried. i moved on without knowing the real reasons why she’s always busy and gone. so i get involved into a relationship and through these years that we are together i’m perfectly happy and contented, until she came along again… when we moved here in the middle east i didn’t know that i will see her after a few years.
until then, my heart is almost healing but she reappeared again, all the memories flooded back to me as well as my feelings.
i know it’s really crazy but i have to vent out my emotions. I feel so obscured and unfair with my partner while thinking of her and feeling aloof while we are together.
nobody from my friends would like to listen to me everytime i want to talk about her, until i released it all out of my chest with a co-worker and told me “say it!” for once i think i saw a faded light bulb on my head.
and so i did. although i didn’t say it personally but through e-mail.
while writing her that letter, i really felt humiliated thinking of how will she react with that stupid revelation.
i saw her online the next day i sent her that and no comments. no reaction.
well, i said to myself at least i already said it…at least she knows how i really feel about her… and then that’s it. end of the road.
until now, i am still working on rekindling that short old friendship that we shared before.
do you think i am doing the right thing?
i love my partner and i know…no matter what we can never be more than friends.
i’m happy to love her this way and see her happy in a certain way.
move on!
i love a gurl..i will do every thing 4 her …we are not with each other …she in italy and am in another country..i promised hr to travil ther ..and i will do ..but no one know that wut the God want …everynight am dreamin bout her … ma friends told me that u will be with her …and alot of ppl told me that wake up !! u dreamin !….am tired from everything …..i want to travil…am waitin untill somethings ..then i will go and i will study ma uni there … i hope that they will let me to Go …cuz am arabic …and all the world think that we are shit !!….why ?..
i want someone to help me …i cant resist more …..i swear i donno wut to do…i will try and try and try ….cuz she ma everything in this life …without her i will die….its ma first time in da love and it will be da last …she relaxin me ….when i hear her voice …when i see her …i hope that if someone feel me ….i want help.
thx 4 reading
Well , i don t really know wat to say cuz i m in love too and i do feel wat u feel right now, it s not easy to lov some1 who, there re miles and miles btw you.
Anyway, i won t tel u dat u ll get back to each other cuz this is only btw Allah”s hand and i won t tel u to forget abt her cuz this is not easy and takes time .but the only thing dat i can tel u is, TRY TO GET OVER THIS, belive me dat will work out with u.
Wish ya good luck
.Ur arab sister
sometimes loving someone that’s in a far far away land is really difficult. you are living in a memory that’s been left behind, while there are other on-going developments with each other’s lives that both of you aren’t updated anymore. and if you will see each other again, you’ll be surprised that you are already hugging a stranger.
don´t give up your dreams ´cause you only live once..think about your happiness and try to catch it..it doesn´t just come knock on your door..
if you really want to be with her, then don´t give up..there are allot of things possible nowadays..if you´re going to study in Italy, they will probably let you live there but you have to arrange everything at the Italian ambassed in your own counrty..it will cost you money but they will tell you what to do..
as i said..ALLOT is possible nowadays..just be sure that she wants the same thing..otherwise you´ll make so many efforts for nothing..
i wish you luck
thx 4 that Sara , living legend , Mestiza
am i donno how to thnk u 4 ths cute words
and i will not give up ..ever
that’s the spirit!
true love is always worth fighting for. keep the good words coming guys! 
Living legend, thanks for your story. It remind me situation I have now.
Few years back, I’m in loved with a gal but we were broke up & I did lot of stupid things tried to recover this relationship. In the end, she left & in love with other guys.
For the first time, I really felt the meaning of heartbreak. It’s physically pain. For that moment, I lost everything, my love, my job even giving up myself. No will to live anymore. Luckily, my family helped me to get through this.
After few months, I meet my wife & we got married after few years. We have a little baby gal as well & living in happiness life.
Recently, I found out from my friend that my ex was broke up with her bf & now wanted to start a new relationship but suffer in unrequited love. Suddenly, our memories is haunting me back. I used to think I have forgotten her few years back but now my feeling for her is back. I felt so bad & sad that she can’t find the one who can give her a family. She is a good gal & she deserves a better man.
The most stupid thing I did was wrote her an email & ask her can we still be friends. What an idiot I am! I know we can’t be together anymore but I still wish I can care for her as a friend, which I never treasure her when we’re together. She never reply & I know she really hate me.
I know it’s unfair for my family especially my love. My wife do know i still love her even until today.
Hopefully, I will forget her & move on.
@Lex :
Plzzz, Forget her.. z that wud be better for u n ur family..
Z u ve tried ur best to get her back bt she didn’t come so now she is alone so for that u cant help her z she didn’t noticed u wen u wer alone n she left wid another. So now u shud not care @ her.
N m stunned to hear that ur wife still know that u still love her.
yeah its ok if ur wife knows everythng about ur past bt u shud not love that past again wen u have ur wife wid u. It’s kinda betrayal wid ur wife. So now cut the crap..
Let me tell u very frankly…
Set free ur Love , if it come back to u it’s urs n if it didn’t come then it wasnt ur’s at all…. so chill n Njoy life wid ur family…
Dont put the pranks to the Ex. U cn be her friend bt Don’t jus love her…………..
SORRY if i hurt u………. bt this is wt i feel…..
hi Imogen miss ya tooo much!!!
you know?! i become too pessimistic concerning love, i’ve lived the most beautiful and crazy love story that would anyone have, all people looked at us and felt happy they were calling us “Love Birds”, and after a long love story we broke up, i’ve never imagined that i would leave that person or he will do so.But one night, i’ve heard message alert, i’ve checked my mobile and i was toooo happy cos the sender was the love of my life, instead of reading nice love words, i’ve read this one” Sara i just send u this message to tell u that our relationship is not stable anymore so we have to put an end and believe me that i loved you and i still do”it is tooo hard Imogen, isn’t it? i’ve grathered my courage and try to 4get about him, it has been a month ago that we broke up.i don t think that love exist between a man and woman now, i believe that there is love but just toward: God, parents, sisters and brothers. But i thank god the one and only cos i was surrounded by the most adorable friends in this world who helped me to stand up on my two own feet and start my life again. i’m having a lot of fun with my friends right now but till now i can’t remove the traces of the best moments that i had with him.
hi Sara, i know what you’re going through! It’s very hard to learn to forget someone that has been so much a part of your life. it really hurts, especially when you’re still very much in love with your ex. but i guess we have to accept the fact, that some good things DO last. and what we can do, is learn from that experience, and move on.
i know it’s easier said than done, but i know God won’t give us something that HE knows we can’t overcome. You’re very lucky you have your friends who are with you in time of need. Cherish them and don’t ever lose hope! Something better will come your way. you’ll see.
thanks for sharing your story!
hiya i’ve jst broken up wid my ex the other day and i wanna get back wid her.c she has this mate that she’s been goin out wid (girl mate) and they’ve been meetin up wid boys and she told me the other day she don’t wanna b wid me coz she has feelings for this luver boy she met and she’s only known him for three days and she said i still love you but i cant b wid you. but i still have feelings for her and i jst wanna get back wid her. so have you got any tips or anything that i can get her back. reply a.s.a.p
hi unknown:
well u should let go of the person who walked away from u and how can she still love u when she convinced u that she has feelings toward some1 else. better to let it go and believe me you’ll get over it. Anyway she is the loser.
take care. Peace.
Love is bittersweet, and that’s why it’s unique.
I’ve now moved 300 miles (long way in Denmark) away from my ex. He’s with a new girl, the one he cheated on me with. We used to live together, had everything. He was my one and only. Now I have everything I want. New life, with my best friends who has moved along. My career is developing wonderful and I’ve met a wonderful guy who I know will treat me as I deserve. But yet everyday I feel like calling him to see if he has changed his mind… if he still loves me, thinks of me etc. I miss him so much, and can’t get him out of my mind. He lives with the new girl now. I assume he’s in love with her, and that makes me feel like I was just one in the row of his romances in life, where in my heart, he was my everything.
Every time I have to go back home to visit friends and family, I can’t help wanting to meet up with him, though we don’t. I don’t have any contact with him at all, but my heart aches! My friends has done everything possible, I have done everything… and now a year has gone by. I try so hard to keep my mind occupied with other things, but I can’t help thinking of him. I know he did bad things, that he’s no good for me anyway and that he does not deserve me, but I feel like I lost a part of myself that nobody can fulfill but him! Do you have any advice for me? It makes me very depressed sometimes because I feel so helpless, restless, confused and just questioning if we will ever get back together!
I love your site…. you are one of the few people in the world that really has the compassion needed for the rest of us to not feel alone. THANK YOU!!
Have a wonderful day… and God Bless You!!
hi jeanette, you know, yours is a sad, painful story that i know lots of other women out there can relate to. it’s definitely hard letting go of someone you love so much, but you have to LEARN. no one can tell you what to do though, because you are your own person, but advice will always be given and it’s up to you which advice to take.
i’m no expert in this, but let me try to give you my opinion. please ask yourself. did your ex boyfriend ever try to contact you? while you’re wondering about him, is he wondering about you? while you’re feeling depressed and confused, is he feeling the same way? or maybe he’s happy with his new life? you said so yourself, he’s with another girl, the one he has cheated on you with. i know it’s difficult to accept, but it really is quite simple. if he really loved YOU, he would choose you over that girl. right? but he didn’t. he chose the other girl. that alone, is proof enough that you need to let go. don’t be hard on yourself. it’s not solely your fault he left. love just works in mysterious ways, and we can never really understand why it has to end for some. there’s nothing wrong with you, maybe you’re just not meant for each other.
i know what you’re going through. it’s hard. when we love someone so much, we tend to give ourselves completely, and when that someone leaves, it feels like a part of us has died. it’s perfectly normal. it’s part of the grieving process. but sooner or later, you have to move on, COMPLETELY. maybe some part of you is still hoping that you’ll get back together. maybe that’s what makes it difficult for you to let go completely. but you’re just making it worse for yourself. it’s not wrong to hope, but you’ve got to know when to stop! you can’t go on living your life stuck to the past. you said you have a wonderful new guy who treats you well, start from there.
think about this. maybe your ex is happy now. can’t you just be happy for him? if you truly love him, you’ll learn to set him free in your heart and accept the fact that he’s happy somewhere else. because if he isn’t, he should have come running straight back to you, the moment you got out of his life, right?
the pain and sadness will always be there i guess. but it will completely heal in time. give yourself a chance to find love again. but you won’t be able to do that, if you still desperately cling to your past love. PRAY. God will help you through it. He’ll show you the right path. just trust in Him. and trust in yourself that you can rise through this. good luck! and let me know what happens.
Dear imogen,
Thank you so much for taking the time in your life to make me and so many other people feel alot better. You are really blessed with a special gift from God. He must be so proud of you!
I have now read your answer for me 3 times, and your words will hopefully be printed in my mind along the way. I have come to the conclusion yesterday that I have to deal with this now once and for all so I can continue MY LIFE!
You are so right, the guy I see now is worth a chance, if not millions!
I will try my very best to face the fact that he does NOT want me to be a part of his life and to pray that both of us will be happy separately. I assume that I deserve it just as much as he does!
In a way I’m glad that I have experienced this in my heart, ’cause I believe what you say about God. Everything happens for a reason, and this will perhaps be the reason why I will be able to handle other things well in my life!
Untill yesterday I did not have the courage to face my fears, feelings, hopes and destiny ’cause it was way more easy to just keep punching myself about it instead of doing something constructive such as dealing with the real problem… meaning OPEN MY EYES AND MIND to the world!! It is not the end yet, but a begging of a process that I expect from myself to learn a whole lot from!
To truly say that I hope he is happy with he’s girlfriend, is very hard for me to do. But I know with time I will be able to do so fortunately. What does not kill you, only makes you stronger!
It is time for me to acknowledge the other great things in my life and not hope to get back together with a person that does not love me!
Love is strange indeed, but with people like you in the world, it gives everything more sense and understanding! Thank you!!
Have a wonderful day! God bless you!
Love,
Jeanette
thank you so much, jeanette, for your kind words. you don’t know how heart warming it is when someone appreciates you, and takes the time to tell you.
i’m so proud of you for finally having the courage to accept the truth and finally taking the first step to letting go! this takes time, especially if you really still love your ex. don’t rush it. it’s not going to be easy, but I know you can do it! you’re absolutely right, it’s no use waiting for someone or clinging to someone who, we know in our hearts, don’t love us anymore. most women have this tendency though. we tend to be masochists and hurt ourselves instead of facing the truth. but hopefully soon enough, we’ll learn to value ourselves more, so we could find the happiness that we so deserve.
again, thank you for your words, and may God bless you in your new life.
Hi Imogen,
I waS just browsing when i accidentally saw your site.. I’ve been hooked for 2 hours already :)…
Well, i’m having a hard time to understand some things lately about my relationship. LAst week, my bf asked me to watch a movie with him with his friends and I said ok.. While waiting to get off from work, I suddenly remembered that one of his co workers might come and so I called him and said if that girl is coming then I won’t go anymore but he can go with them ( perfectly fine really! )… The girl I was talking about was someone who likes him a lot and my bf had used her in making me mad one time which really freaked me out… that time he said he was really sorry. But then, just like other women, i don’t feel comfortable being with people who contributed to our major fight or who had been a part of not so good memories. She just get into my nerves that much, especially when she allows herself to get between us… It’s very intentional.. My bf got mad at me and he said I was making an issue out of nothing. I said, it’s just that I don’t feel comfortable seeing her around and it’s something that he should respect, after all it was him who started it all. Since that time, we haven’t seen each other nor talk over the phone, It’s all text messages and I hate it very much. I broke off with him over text since he doesn’t want to talk personally… but it was just because I was very mad… Now, its like it’s all my fault. I tried reaching him and I asked if he has no plans of talking to me or at least settling this matter, he said it was me who wanted to break up and he was just respecting what I want…
Every time we fight, we really never talk about what had been our problem… When he comes to see me, there’s no room for questioning, for clearing, for compromising.. When he sees me that’s it! We’re ok and it means he is sorry but no definite words.. When I try to talk about it, for the reasons of at least next time it will not happen again or we would try not to do any of it again, he would always say ” DONT START, It ALREADY HAPPENED”….
I feel so bad.. as in so bad.. because he makes me feel it’s all my fault when what he knows doing best is to avoid discussions.. Leaving things at that… I love him much,, but I feel i’m losing my self respect already.
Please help me.
Thank you.
hi mErz, i can feel your frustration. men can sometimes be very difficult to understand.
i think this is a classic example of a relationship that is not emotionally fulfilling. i don’t know you, or your boyfriend, but i do know that you’re not the only couple experiencing this kind of problem. lots and lots of women out there are complaining that their partners don’t seem to understand them, or don’t seem to be sensitive enough to their feelings. i think every woman has experienced this at one time or another. 
so don’t think you’re alone.
anyway, with the situation you narrated, i understand your need to be as far away as possible to the people who have been instrumental to your fights with your boyfriend. and i really think that if you explained that to him carefully, your boyfriend should have respected that as well. did you explain to him in a nice way how you felt? sometimes, it’s all in the “expression”. we want to express our feelings, but we should also think about how the other person will respond to the way we express them. if you were able to explain it nicely, i think there’s no reason why he should get mad at you!
sometimes, even little things can trigger a fight, even with the best of couples. it’s normal. two different people are bound to disagree. but if you really love each other, it’s up to you how to find ways of getting around that. compromise is the key. if you’re boyfriend really loves you, he’ll realize that. and you, on the other hand, should help him realize that too.
i can understand how mad you must be because he didn’t respect your feelings… thus, causing you to break up with him. but let me ask you this, do you regret breaking up with him? i can tell that you’re still in love with him, because obviously, you’re still affected with the whole thing. i know how frustrating it is to be in a relationship that doesn’t fulfill your emotional needs, most especially a relationship that makes you lose self respect. that’s a complete no-no. if you feel that way, it’s time to do some re-evaluating. are you willing to lose yourself for a guy? if your boyfriend even allows that to happen to you, then he really isn’t worth it!
in any relationship, healthy communication is essential. you don’t avoid problems, you face them head on! if you don’t discuss the causes of your fights, problems will never be resolved. i know most guys don’t like to “TALK” about stuff, but we have to teach them somehow because it’s really important. the whole purpose of “talking”, is to LEARN. with every fight, with every conflict, the main goal is to learn to understand your partner… to know your partner better so that the next time something like that happens again, you know what to do. you should be growing together, not growing apart!
your boyfriend should understand this, and you should help him understand it. if he truly loves you, he will be willing enough to make the effort of working out your relationship. if not, then you’re better off without him. know when to hold on, and know when to give up. life is too short to waste your time with a person who’s not even willing to meet you halfway.
you’re a woman, and you should realize your self worth. that’s very important. most often than not, when it comes to love, rules and advices like these are thrown out. but it has to start within you. nobody can tell you what to do. you have to know it within yourself. if you’re tired of always being stepped on, then stand up for yourself! remember, other people can only do to us, what we allow them to do to us. same goes with your boyfriend. so you have to make a decision, and make sure you’ll be able to stand by that decision. and keep in mind, what’s meant to be, will be.
hope everything goes okay with you!
hi ImogeN! tHank you So mUch For repLying to me,, having someone to listen to me was very helpful and it was really a relief…
Last friday, finally we were able to talk personally. He initiated the talk. I was expecting the worst possible scenario and decisions that might come up. Honestly, I was not expecting any reconciliation anymore. I just want to let him know everything that I feel. We met for dinner. We talked about everything, we talked about where it started, what had been our problems, everything, every single detail. He was able to understand where I was coming from,.. it was not a very easy thing to do. I was teary for a while, and I’m glad that he was composed and very casual that day. He listened to me.. He said everything too. But it was not hurtful,,, we settled things that we have to.. I asked if we need work it out and he said he’s having second thoughts.. so I said its ok, since I’m not also sure if its a good idea and me myself is having mixed feelings about us being together as couple again. So we both agreed that we remain friends. That was the very hurting part.
He said, he’ll watch a movie after our talk. So after dinner, I already said my goodbye to him. He asked me where I’m going & I said I’ll just go around the mall since I’m here already. He held my hand like before, it was the worst feeling I ever had.. Tears are almost falling but I controlled it and he said he still wants to walk around with me. I was just quiet, I couldnt say a word… I saw every little details that reminds me of our good times together, restaurants where we used to dine, things we planned to buy for each other, etc.. and it saddened us both.. He asked if I was mad on the decision that we made.. I said no, it was maybe better. I was honest that I cant be friends with him just yet. And when he doesnt hear from me, it doesnt mean I’m mad, its just im taking my time… He said, he’s not sure if what he said was right,, He said he’s afraid that he’ll regret making that harsh decision. I just kept quiet abt what he’s saying. I was joking a lot,, I was really diverting my mind away from the pain I’m really feeling that moment…. I was making things lighter…Since I can no longer take holding hands with him for some more time because it saddens me so much, I already said he should go watch his movie and I really need to go… While I was walking with him in the movie house, he was into tears,, I said I really got to go…. I already said my goodbye.
I never texted him anymore. When I was on my way home.. my tears began flowing down my cheeks,, I was really sad,,, i received a message from him saying HON, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. I never responded… simply because, i dont want to prolong the agony.. both for our part. I prayed so hard that evening… asking the Lord to help me get through it.. Very early morning, he called me at the house. He said goodmorning hon… and asked how i was doing.. I continued being casual to him because I dont want sad thoughts anymore. He continues to say he misses me but I no longer entertain the thoughts.. Im happy to hear it but Im quite ok now. Sunday we had dinner and we were like before. Maybe we were pressured on making things perfect. We focused on being couples but not on us being friends too. That was our mistake.
I can say now that I’m more better than last week and Im not so hurt as before. Im starting to get used to being by myself. I’m loving myself more now. Thank you imogen!
Hi imogen
LOL
yea its has been really a long time dat i didn’t surf on the net i really do miss ya! hope u r missin my comments too:
U know imogen whenever i read your posts i feel too happy as i get my power from them. i really do appraciate ur work,so u. keep lookin up and gd luck.Peace hon.
hey sara! good to have you back! i do miss your comments.
i always appreciate them. thanks for your compliments, and i’m happy you appreciate what i’m doing. always take care, and god bless! peace!
You’re the best Imogen never 4get dat.kissssssssssssssssssss.Peace!
I know some of you will judge me when I talk about my experience with love. I hope that you keep reading to fully understand the reasons I allowed it to happen.
I am in love with a married man. We have had a relationship for a year now. Before you hate him for straying or hate me for tempting him…please read.
I suffered major setbacks from abuse I endured as a kid. One of the setbacks was the inability to trust. I trusted a very limited set of people…basically my mom, sister and brother. I married young thinking it would solve all my problems but didn’t. I never felt safe enough or ready to face my demons.
This is very hard to share but I never consummated my marriage. I am still a virgin. I was married for six years and couldn’t bring myself to trust enough and face that ultimate act.
Last year I met someone who started out as a friend. I knew I was attracted to him from the beginning which confused me as I was still living with my husband. The friendship evolved - or rather I allowed it to evolve - into one of the most rewarding relationships I have ever experienced. For the first time in my life, I trusted someone other than family. I let go. I began therapy again and his support gave me the strength I needed to begin my self recovery.
His marriage has its problems and he is unhappy. He proposed to her because she got pregnant. He wanted to be there for his son day and night. He is an amazing father and loves his son very much. From what I’ve heard from friends and family of theirs, they are both unhappy but neither one is willing to step up and work on their happiness.
I could be an escape for him, who knows. He says he loves me and says he hasn’t felt love in a long time. He says he can open up to me in ways he never could with anyone before. I know in my heart that I truly love him. And it’s rewarding to know that I am capable of trusting someone. Which I thought I would never be able to do.
We have even gotten further intimately than I ever did with my husband.
He can’t leave her. He wants to keep that family together for the sake of his son. Even though his son will grow up with the tension in that house.
I don’t want to let him go. I’m so numb without him. But I know it’s not healthy for either of us if this continues.
How do I let go the deepest love I’ve known?
How do I let go the only man I’ve trusted?
Help
hi JustMe. First and foremost, thank you for sharing your experience. I know how hard it must be to let it all out, because of the fear of being judged. It takes courage to face your problems, and I respect you for that. No one has the right to judge you or the things you’ve experienced, because only God has the right to judge us. We are all imperfect persons, and judging one another is out of the question.
Regarding your problem, honestly, I don’t have solutions or great words of advice to give… I personally don’t know what to do myself if I were in your situation. It’s tough being involved with a married person, because well, your relationship is hidden, and you’re not free to love each other completely because of other people involved. It must really hurt, right? Especially if what you’re saying is true. That you really love him. Sharing the person you love with another is painful. And only YOU can determine whether you want to continue feeling that pain or not.
Of course you don’t want to let him go because of valid reasons… he’s the only one you were able to trust, he makes you feel loved and special, he makes you happy, you love him, he loves you… but there’s also a reason why you should let him go. Because he’s married. And like you said, he doesn’t have any plans of leaving his wife for you. See, if he loved you enough, he wouldn’t let you go. He would fight for you, and choose you over his failing marriage. But if he’s not strong and committed enough to choose you, do you think the relationship is still worth fighting for? Do you want to continue your affair that you yourself know is unhealthy? Are you contented to just do things behind your spouses’ backs? Are you satisfied with that kind of relationship? Are you willing to hold on until the very end? Or are you ready to let go and move on?
How do you let go the deepest love you’ve known? How do you let go of the only man you’ve trusted?
These and a lot of other questions… but the truth is, only you can answer that. If there’s a manual for this type of problem, no one will be experiencing it. Everyone would know what to do. But no. The decision has to come from you. You will find the answer within yourself. It IS hard and it hurts too, but you have to decide, and you have to be strong enough to stand by that decision.
I guess there’s nothing more I could advice you except to PRAY. Problems like these are too big to carry alone. Talk to GOD. Surrender your problems to HIM, because He can help you. Pray for guidance and strength to decide what needs to be done. Sometimes, what we want, or what we think we want, are not the best things for us. Only God knows what’s best for us. Don’t ignore HIM, especially at times when you really need comfort and healing. No matter what happens, or whatever you decide on, always remember, you are a special person, and with or without a man, you can survive. Good luck, and I pray that you will have all the love and blessings that you deserve.
Hey imogen
How Are U…Hope Ur Gud …..
i didnt write any comment from lot of time
i had to study so i couldnt …..
Miss U All :)..
i wanted to say :
i broke up with ma Gf ….who i loved more than maself ….i rely thought i will be with her till da last breath …..cuz i loved her more than anything in da whole world ….but God doesnt want us to contineu with eachother ….. Wut can i do more??
we broke up before 20 days …… i donno … i thought i will not live without her …. i rely lost everything …she was ma everything …..i still love her and i still have da hope to be with her again …..i will still tryin….hope da god will help me …
hey sara…..i read ur story its rely hard ….and am Glad that u are Happy now …. u will get in love again …and u will have person who will keep u in his eyes :)….
this site is rely da best site ….i like to read ur stories friends
cuz its rely makes me relax
Hi everyone
im new to this site but all these stories really make me feel like everyone would understand and try to help with my situation so here it goes.
About a month ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years.
At the time it seemed like the right choice,
and in part it still seems that way to me since our greatest enemy was in fact distance..
He lives near the border in mexico and I live in Colorado, USA so it just seemed like our relationship was getting kinda pointless.
Specially since he wuld just frustrate me a lot, and say false promises that he obviously didnt keep.
Even then, I truly loved him.
i gave him my whole heart and hes just someone i cant forget.
and now we’ve decided to remain friends but its just not the same.
im still used to the guy that would tell me evrything, and all the things he did.
now he acts like my word could mean less, and it just hurts cos i still rememver waht it used to be.
I still care for him
its obvious evrytime i talk to him.
and he keeps teting me evryday. making attempts to talk to me, but when we finally do he hardly says anything or listens to much that i have to say.
i honestly dont understand this behavior and im getting tired of it.
ive tried to tell him that maybe its best we just dont talk at all, so my old wounds stop opening up each time we talk.
but he insists that that would hurt more.
so im just confused. a part of me wants to go back to what it used to be but the other part tells me not to be so stupid and wake up and see that nothing can go back to how it was.
all i want to know is if he does really love me like he says he does or is it just an act to use me as a side dish whenver he needs it?
thank you to whoever takes the time to answer..
Hey Confused..
U know ….thats wut goin on with me ….i swear its da same
but am sure that she loved me …. we are friends now …and she cant do anything without ask me….we still need eachother
but she dont want to back to me….i donno if i have to stop speakin with her …but i feel that am lost without her …or without her voice….
i donno if he rely loves u …but if he does…he would come to u
and maybe if u stop talkin with him …u will forget him
donno wut to say more
take care
txt back
PLEASE HELP!!!!
well i have two people that wants to be with me…
the first one is my ex…
she broke up with me because she was tired of keeping our relationship on the low…
well at least that’s what she said…
but about a week later she goes out with her ex…
she said she was in love with me but last time i checked if you’re really in love with somebody you cant just leave them for another person
last time i checked that ain’t what love is
but when things weren’t going good between them and they break up…
and everytime she cries she comes to ME…
and i wanted to keep my promise that whatever happens to our relationship i will always be there for her…and i was..
she’d cry and she’d talk about her ex to me but she just didn’t know that it was hurting me…
so then i realized that it was time for me to do something FOR ME!!
i can’t put her as my priority anymore because im just her option
so we didn’t talk for a while..
even though i missed her i had to move on…
Things were going good for me…
wasn’t really thinking about her as much as i did
weren’t really talking to her at all
i blocked her from my phone…
and when she’d leave a message to call her back i wouldn’t
and i made sure that the house phone was always in use
by then i was hanging out with my friends and talking to another person
i didn’t really like the person but i thought that i would give it a chance
but we took things slow because i was just recovering from being broken hearted
and that person understood…
i really thought that i was over my ex
but just when i was starting to get over her
she comes back in my life…
she couldn’t get through me so she called my brother
my brother answered so i couldn’t really do anything but talk to her
so we talked on the phone for quite a while
then as we were about to hang up she drops the bomb on me…
that she was still in love with me…
and now i don’t know what to do
all i know is that im scared to get hurt again…
i have my ex who says that she’s still in love with me…
but i’m having doubts about her…
is she saying the thruth or im just her rebound from her other ex that she broke up with me for???
but i really love her though..
but i don’t think that i love her enough to risk my heart again…
on the other hand i have someone that i know likes me a lot…
i don’t really like that person but i know if i just give it a try i can feel the same way that person feels about me…
i love my ex so much
i know she did me wrong
but there’s something about her that i just can’t let go
i appreciate that person for waiting
i dont want that person to get hurt
if only i’d give that person a chance then maybe things would work out
I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!
hey someone
thanx for answering
its just real confusing. im sure u’d agree
he says that he does care but lately he just does so many things that im sure would hurt me if id ever find out.
and ugh its just so frustrating.
im sorry ur going through the same thing.
but thanx anyways
take care too
thank you so much for your advice. my ex and I broke up over a year and half ago and im still trying to move on…i hope i can take your advice and put it into play!
hi everyone!
im new here and im so amazed how the people here, especially imogen give very sensible advices. .
no, i didn’t break up with my bf (bcoz i dont have one. .lol)
but im here to ask what u guys think i should do with this very confusing situation I am in. .
i met this guy 5 months ago. .he used to be my student for 7 weeks in my 1:1 class. .he’s from korea and im from the philippines. .1m 21 and he’s 27. .at first, i was the one who liked him but im very sure that i didnt show signs that i liked him. .but after a few weeks, he was telling me he liked me and he’s crazy bout me. .after hearing those, i felt disgusted. .and my feelings for him just vanished into thin air. .after that incident, i tried avoiding him to the extent that i skip from his classes. .he was so upset when he realized that i was avoiding him so he decided to go to back to his country earlier than his original plan. .and promised that he’d be back by december. .for me
after he left, we get to talk to each other online. .i started getting used to chatting with him. .and i started falling for him. .but i just kept it to myself. .for about 2 weeks, i had problems with my inet connection. .so, we weren’t able to communicate. .i realized during those times that i dont really feel anything for him.
when i had my i.net back, i blocked him from my messenger list and unblock him again everytime i feel guilty blocking him. . the other night, he asked me. . “can i go there this december?”. .i dont know what to reply. .so i left it unaswered. .i know i have to give him my answer ASAP. .
im considering a lot of things and its making me so stressed out. . like: our nationality, age difference. .im working right now and if he comes here. .what will he do while im at work, he doesn’t know anyone from here except me. .if he comes here, i feel obliged to show him around. .and most of the time i still get turned off with his englsih skill. .im not that good too but his is just so. . .i dunno. . =(
i cant just tell him not to come here. . cuz its just so mean. . but if he comes, i just dont know waht to do with him. . =(
i know its kinda selfish but i have this mind setting. .i dont want u to be my boyfriend but please just stay there. .i have this feeling that i willnot find another guy who likes me as much as he likes me. .
please HELP. .and im sorry if it’s kinda long. .
God bless u all. . ^^*
well i liked all teh stories in here what can i say abt love i was in love 3 times all the time the guys cheat on me my first one was the love of my life we were together for 1 year then he left for canada its so hard to part with someone u love its like the time is going so quick. anyways the night he was going away he came to my home to meet my parents n to ask for my hand in marriage. my dad told him its up to u, not us. we held hands as he was walking towards the car we were still holding hands then little by little we let go, the car drove off. i felt like dying to be honest. i fell to the ground crying he looked back at me n left becoz he was getting late for his flight he used to call me like 3 times per week at first then it went to once every three months i called him once n asked him y are u not calling me he told me he’s so busy n that we always fight with each other that’s a lie i asked him if he ever loved me he told me point blank, no i never did. i cried for days. due to this, i made up my mind to leave him. we were together for 3 years n it ended due to distance i can tell u distances can break relationships. my 2nd one was so cute n kind towards me but he lies a lot. he had gotten a teenage girl pregnant n he wanted to marry me then he would have told me he is having a kid but i found out n i left him. the 3rd was a divorced married man. i was in love with a man 2 times my age he loved me alot he was there for me when i needed him but the only thing bad abt him is that in the 1 year with him he used to say i love u but now in 1 year’s time he did not i know love has to be shown not said. but still who would not like to hear someone telling them i love u i mean we are in bed n he cant say it. my 4th was an indian guy. i am western girl he’s an indian from india he told me he loves me a lot. i say i love u too after months. i told him i love him here’s his story… his family won’t accept me due to my religion he’s hindu, i am not. sometimes u feel he’s lying to me he wants to go to canada then marry with me we are still together but we fight a lot. i don’t know what will happen to us n our story have learned that god knows what’s best for us so leave everything to god he may close one door but open another for u.
Hi everyone, I’m Not good at this but here it goes………..
I just transfered to a new school. Have this classmate which didn’t mean anything to me(I was such a childish minded idiot at the time). We weren’t even close at all.
So a full year of school passed by….. The next year we were in the same section again but this time I’m more adept to people. I was communicating with her real well.
Whenever there’s spare time to spend I just spent it w/ my close friends(including her).
At that time everything was so good, I always got high grades,good friends, Never a single problem in the world, never cared about anything……Until this girl and I got so close we were always on the phone, I would always act as here protector, always kid around each other,we made promisses that WE WILL NEVER GET ANGRY W/ EACH OTHER,,,alot of people said that we were so close that we were like the perfect love mates, while infact we were not, I didn’t care, just denied it, just said that we were friends to everyone, people always thaught we were in love w/ each other, but all this didn’t mean anything to me……………..UNTIL,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,One day she just didn’t come near me anymore, I didn’t mind it, She never called my name again, She never really avoided me but as the days went on I felt the feeling that she just didn’t want to come near me for some odd reason.
Still I didn’t care,……as more time passes by she now doesn’t come near me but tries to be very approching to other buys in the class…….I know one of them which is my friend that often hangs around w/ in the class( w/ me still not caring)…..Until at some points she tries to make me jealous( dont know if she is intending it or is it just really my mind that thiks it)……At one time she just told me to please exchange chairs w/ her just so she can talk and fool around with my seatmate, w/c is my friend……So i got up and did so,,,,,,But inside me, I got this feeling that I can’t explain, It was odd, I was like so angry w/ her because it was too much already, I really felt that she was trying to make me see something that I can’t tell…
I shouted at her said awful words (even though we promised not to do that at each other)…She was like shocked….
For that day I never said anything to her again…, The next day I just kept evading the sigh of her,,, Didn’t talk to her, and when I got home I just missed texting w/ her on the phone, It was like I had a crush on her that i just felt after so long, But I didn’t believe myself, I always but in my head that it’s nothing, It will go away.
Next day again,,,…..could not talk to her and she could not talk to me,,,,It was like a burden….and so on till the next day my feelings for her kept getting stronger…….
and so on the 4th day I took up all my courage and said sorrry to her,,,,,,…She put a smile on her face and said “Why did you get angry w/ me”?
I said because I was stupid,,,…So after that I felt an overwealming joy, But I tried so hard to bring things back to how they were, somehow I longed for the days when we were still very close friends.,,,,I now Knew that i was deeply in-Love w/ her.
But I failed,, instead shes still trying to make me see something……
As months went pass… we Were always in on and off moods w/ each other,,, one week we are talking w/ each other the next week we were not.
I always thought about her, And when i saw something in my head,,, I just can’t deserve her, I can’t be in-love w/ her, I have to forget her, I need to stop longing for her……….
And so after all these I changed, I never tried to talk to her again, Lost my friends, Everyone said I had a big change in attitude,Everyone said they prefered the old me..,,,,,,My grades all failed,,,,,Met new friends that led me to no good, Everything that I beleve was good changed, I became rebelius, Did not respect anyone, Not even God himself, I never tought of my well-being anymore, commited crimes etc, etc,……All of this because of her, I still can’t get her out of my head, i’m so angry w/ her but so in-love w/ her at the same time,,,,,,,
At this point of my life I became a total EMO as you call it……Untill me and my friend were writing letters to each other w/ stories of my problem w/ her,………..Somehow this letter came into her possession,……..There it says that I love her so Much that I could give up my life just for her( wich was realy true)………
But still nothing happened because I know she already knows that,……From the time I gave her chocolates,Gifts, etc……
Okay lets skip over a huge Part of it since its getting very very long………………………………
Right now, I’m not talking to her, I’ve decided to go to school somewhere else, I haven’t said a word to her since mid January,,,,,
I’m used to the jealosy I once felt so painful,,,,
My heart is now numb,At some points I think of commiting suicide,,,,
But I just want to talk to her,,,,,
What can I do to talk to her?
I still want to know the reason why she changed?
I’ve never said i Love her( and im not planing to do so)
I just want to leave all my memories of her behind.
And alot of more qustions that I need answers….
Please I Need Your Help,,,
I’m willing to give my email add,,,,,
Thank you very much,,,,,
Sory it was so long but if I didnt cut it dow it would be 16X longer,,,,,,,, (Told you I wasnt good at these things)
thanks again Plese Help
I was in love with a guy called. He was not into me but he wanted to be a friend. We were friends for almost 1 year. Finally, I realized that he would never fall for me and I couldn’t get over him, if we stayed such frequent contacts. So, I told him peacefully that I had been in love with him but I wanted to move on so I decided to not have any contact with him at all until I was ready. He replied that it’s not a surprise for him to hear how I felt for him and he’s sorry that he couldn’t answer my love. He would not try to contact me any more in order to respect my feelings but hope to hear from me soon. I think it is a good closure for me. I thank him for that.
I hope your love story can have a happy ending. If not, you should go for a closure FOR YOURSELF. A closure is always not happy but it should not be bitter as well. Only with such a peaceful closure, your wound will recover completely.
I’ve been for 7months in a relationship with 40 years old divorced man (4 years ago). He has a 10 years old daughter and she comes twice in a month; also, his mom is now living with him cause she is a little sick. I live in a town 2 hours from his and for my work I have to travel 3 days in the week to his city it does mean living with him 3 days in a week and also the weekends. When his daughter came we didn’t sleep in the same room.
1 month ago we went to a trip (a tropical island) with his daughter; it was really painful because he was with her all the time taking her pictures and kissing the kid ….he didn’t hold my hand or kiss me in front of her. We didn’t have time for us in the trip, the day we wanted to go out for a walk (without his daughter), she started to cry and we didn’t go. .
I decided to try to enjoy the trip, we went to a tour and for lunch time, all the tour group was sitting in the same table. I sat first and close to the guide (a young man); my BF and his daughter came late and asked me to move close to them..I said: I am going to stay here; and didn’t want to move. After lunch he told me I was disrespecting them and if I continue behaving like that I must move my things from his place and our relationship will end. I told him ok..we still had 5 days to finish the trip and I tried to do make any comment. When we came from the trip, I returned to my town without talking because his daughter was still there. The week after I told him we needed to talk and I stay in a hotel; I told him I didnt like his words and I asked to treat me as his GF and give me my place and time in front of his daughter . He said he can not understand what I am asking him because he just did his best and has showing me all his love. One week after I told him I can not continue because my BF should try to understand my feelings and do not want to suffer in the future. ..then we agree in give us a week.
I contact his best friend’s wife which is a psychologist and ask her for an advice (because they know him for 4 years), she told me that it is not surprising for her my BF behave cause he is extremely obsessive with his daughter and no one else exists when they are together; one of her comments was to leave him because he would never understand me..and he just want a wife to have kids.
I tried for a month.. explaining to him in a nice way by email, phone, chat..but he said I should forget/ignore and continue together..Two days ago..we chat and told me he is tired of this situation and realized I deserve someone different and better….I phone him and tried him understand that I LOVE HIM but I need he recognized it was not nice to treat me like he did and I needed my place…he said that I have chosen my future without them (his daughter too)….
I love him…but how to make he understand…he told me if I want we can come back but we must not talk about the past….what to do??
*His daughter is lovely and she likes me and the same for me..but can not stand when he spoiled her…..I am 32..he was telling me..he wants marry me……(before the trip).
Hi i like a girl, but how will i know if she likes me too?
Can anyone site some examples please…
there is this guy that i loved
but i wasn’t sure if i loved him
ppl say he likes me but he never talks to me
we used to be great friends but he stopped talking to me
some say he realized he like me and got more shy
while others say he just hates me now..
he only says insults to me when i try to talk to him
i tried making contact with him
but he never gives any reply back to me
some ppl think he only saying insults to be cool
i really care for him he may seem un emotional
but deep down he can be a nice person from the heart
i believe it so its true im worried
do u think he likes me back..?
or does he just completely hate me now..