Love Advice

ART OF LETTING GO

It’s definitely hard letting go of someone you love so much, but you have to LEARN. Please ask yourself. Did your ex boyfriend ever try to contact you? While you’re wondering about him, is he wondering about you? While you’re feeling depressed and confused, is he feeling the same way? Or maybe he’s happy with his new life? You said so yourself, he’s with another girl, the one he has cheated on you with. I know it’s difficult to accept, but it really is quite simple. If he really loved YOU, he would choose you over that girl. Right? But he didn’t. He chose the other girl. That alone, is proof enough that you need to let go. Don’t be hard on yourself. It’s not solely your fault he left. Love just works in mysterious ways, and we can never really understand why it has to end for some. There’s nothing wrong with you, maybe you’re just not meant for each other.

When we love someone so much, we tend to give ourselves completely, and when that someone leaves, it feels like a part of us has died. It’s perfectly normal. It’s part of the grieving process. But sooner or later, you have to move on, COMPLETELY. Maybe some part of you is still hoping that you’ll get back together. Maybe that’s what makes it difficult for you to let go completely. But you’re just making it worse for yourself. It’s not wrong to hope, but you’ve got to know when to stop! Read more here.

WHEN LOVERS DON’T TALK

I can feel your frustration. Men can sometimes be very difficult to understand. I think this is a classic example of a relationship that is not emotionally fulfilling. I don’t know you, or your boyfriend, but i do know that you’re not the only couple experiencing this kind of problem. Lots and lots of women out there are complaining that their partners don’t seem to understand them, or don’t seem to be sensitive enough to their feelings. I think every woman has experienced this at one time or another. So don’t think you’re alone.

Sometimes, even little things can trigger a fight, even with the best of couples. It’s normal. Two different people are bound to disagree. But if you really love each other, it’s up to you how to find ways of getting around that. Compromise is the key.

I know how frustrating it is to be in a relationship that doesn’t fulfill your emotional needs, most especially a relationship that makes you lose self respect. That’s a complete no-no. If you feel that way, it’s time to do some re-evaluating. Are you willing to lose yourself for a guy? If your boyfriend even allows that to happen to you, then he really isn’t worth it!

In any relationship, healthy communication is essential. You don’t avoid problems, you face them head on! If you don’t discuss the causes of your fights, problems will never be resolved. I know most guys don’t like to “talk” about stuff, but we have to teach them somehow because it’s really important. The whole purpose of “talking”, is to learn. With every fight, with every conflict, the main goal is to learn to understand your partner… to know your partner better so that the next time something like that happens again, you know what to do. You should be growing together, not growing apart! Read more here.

(Note: These are some pieces of advice I gave to my wonderful readers who took the time to share their love stories. To read their stories, please follow the links.)